Post # 1
I have a cousin/aunt/family that apparently has no manners. I had an inkling this was true when they proceeded to talk about the wedding at every bridal shower, wedding, baby shower and family holiday (even though only a handful were invited to the actual wedding). Or when we traveled to the at home reception and the bride made no attempt to talk to all of the guests, and stayed with the bridal party only, all night (none of the family even got a hi from her). But it was confirmed when she thought it was ok to send a a postcard with a photo on one side and a “Thanks for sharing our day” printed on the the other side, no mention of the really nice gift we got her.
I am so tempted to annonymously send her a bridal ettiquete book with certain parts flagged and highlighted.
End of rant:)
Post # 5
I was planning on doing thank-you postcards 🙁
When FI’s brother got married, I helped them set up the reception and my FI made batches and batches of carrot salad. We even bought her hairspray at a last second store run. We wrote our names and addresses in the guestbook, I got no thank you card even a year later no “Thanks y’all” or anything.
Post # 6
@ieatunicorns: Yeah, but you don’t want to stoop to that level, do you? Let it go, and revel in the manners you know you have. You can’t control someone else’s.
Post # 7
I’m really a stickler for personalized thank you notes. I would be fine with a photo post-card, if the other side included a hand-written, personal thank you. We have 3 out-of-state weddings to attend this summer. OOT guests spend a lot of money (transportation, lodging, food for the weekend, etc.) to attend your ceremony, the least you can do is send a personal thank-you to acknowledge that. Everyone should receive a personal thank you, but OOT guests especially!!
Post # 8
I got a postcard picture thank you… considering it was the ONLY thank you card I recieved from the last 6+ weddings, I was happy with it
But I do not plan to do a generic one, if we do picture thank yous, I will be sure to add a note to the family when I send
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
@negrande: Those are *really* cute-and easy to personalize them. It’s sometimes hard as a guest to get a good shot of the bride & groom- I’d appreciate that-would just like the note on the back.
Post # 11
That is SO RUDE. (I support the anonymous etiquette book sending)
Post # 12
I don’t really see a problem with it, lots of weddings don’t follow etiquitte these days, and simple Thank You’s are just one of the new things. I don’t buy people a gift and expect a Thank You card, I buy them a gift cause it’s their special day and it’s my way to Thank them for letting me be a part of it 🙂
Don’t get me wrong, Thank you’s are nice, but I just don’t expect them.
I will do them for my wedding, but they will be simple and to the point as it’s more us :).
Post # 13
@negrande: Just a one or two sentence thanks for coming and if they brought a gift mention it. I got a photo postcard and on the back my friend wrote stuff for each guest. That I thought was perfectly fine. But there was nothing personalized about this.
@StuporDuck: I wouldn’t actually do it, but it would be funny:)
Post # 14
When one of my bridesmaids got married two years ago (I was a bridesmaid for her), all we got was a Thank You photo post card. I didn’t think much of it since back then I didn’t realize a personalized note was the proper thing to do. Also, I did soooo much for her when I was her bridesmaid. Oh well.
A few months ago another one of my friends got married and we have yet to receive any type of thank you from her. I’m not even sure she acknowledged the nice wedding card with a very nice dollar amount that was placed in there from us. :shrug: Can’t do much about people like that.
I definitely plan on writing personalized thank you notes to guests.
I agree with @JulesSchnooks, don’t stoop that low.
Post # 15
Do people really get so worked up over not receiving personalized thank you notes? Does it ruin your day? Yes, it’s rude. Is it worth expending all that energy on being angry, buying a book, highlighting parts, and sending it? I think you need to let it go and realize that while you might never behave that way, a perceived breach of etiquette does not warrant such a reaction.
Post # 16
@JustHappy: Do you really think in real life I would do that???????