Post # 1
so it seems as if there will be no speeches at our reception from my side. the best man is doing a speech but my moh flat out refuses bc she doesn’t like public speaking. my two younger sisters who are bridesmaids are also opting not to say anything. so it looks like it will just be the best man giving a toast. dad hasnt confirmed or denied whether he’s doing one. is this super weird? there’s no underlying tension or anything just everyone i kno hates being the center of attention i guess.
Post # 3
I asked my dad to do a welcome toast. Could you ask you dad if he’ll do that for you? And then in terms of your Maid/Matron of Honor, I say she should make a speech anyway. My Maid/Matron of Honor hates public speaking, too, but she gave a toast anyway!
Post # 4
FH and i are going to do a welcome/thank you toast (we’re the ones hosting the wedding).
i just don’t know that i want to force anyone to give a toast/speech if they’re really uncomfortable but am afraid that people might be a little thrown off their absence.
Post # 5
Do you have another friend or family member who could step up? Like perhaps if you have someone doing a reading during your ceremony, you could ask them to perhaps say a few words.
Post # 6
We had no speeches at mine.
Post # 7
I think it would be ok if the best man just gave a toast…… i’d have them call it a TOAST rather than a speech, and then it just sounds less awkward.
Post # 8
The best man & Maid/Matron of Honor are doing speeches at our reception. We will do a short thank you speech at the end.
Post # 9
no speeches for me … we’re cutting out the formal meal though so don’t think it matters.
No best man either, so I just plan to do a short thank you speech after the buffet.
Most people don’t like public speaking, including me so why get them stressed out .. it will spoil their day
Post # 10
There will be no speeches at mine and it doesn’t bother me at all. FI’s brother does not want to give one, so I’m not making my Maid/Matron of Honor either…but she can if she wants. I was Maid/Matron of Honor once and was made to give a speech and I’m terrified of public speaking. The speech was super short…just a basic congrats. I felt bad for not going into depth about our relationship, but I just couldn’t do it. The entire beginning if the reception wasn’t fun for me at all knowing I had to give a speech. I would just stick with the best man “toast” or ask another friend or family member to do it. I assure you its not because your Maid/Matron of Honor doesnt love you!
Post # 11
@lmc183 that’s EGGZACTLY what i’m afraid of and i for sure don’t want to do that to any of my girls.
i might just let the other bridesmaids know if they’d like to say something they are more than welcome to but otherwwise just keep it to our welcome speech and the best man toast.
Post # 12
I don’t think it’ll be weird at all. I was my sisters Maid/Matron of Honor and I was so nervous to give a speech that I couldn’t enjoy myself at all. I was literally terrified. HATE public speaking. But, I got through it. I guess to me, I wouldn’t have felt right if i didn’t do the speech. I just looked at my sister instead of all the guests and said the speech to her. It helped big time.
Post # 13
I was in the opposite situation. My Maid/Matron of Honor and my sister both wanted to speak but I didn’t want someone to speak for me. So, my dad gave a toast and so did the best man, and that was it. Fine with me!
Post # 14
No one really likes toasts, giving or listening but the bride and groom. It takes time away from the fun of the reception. I personally don’t want any speeches and told our Maid/Matron of Honor and best man if they do one they have a 3 minutes limit, haha. They are both barely over 21 so I think they are both thankful.