Post # 1
I have a question for the Hive. It is okay to not put a stamp on the RSVP in an invitation? My mom has heard this is now acceptable because of the rising price of stamps. But she heard from someone else this is only acceptable if there is an email reply option. What do you think? Is this okay?
Post # 3
Hmmm… I’ve never heard this but it sure would have saved us some money. Especially since people keep calling with their reply instead of mail the dang card…
I would stamp the envelope for older guests (over 50 and sticklers for old school tradition) and include an email/website RSVP option for the younger guests.
Post # 4
I was invited to a wedding and there was no stamp on the reply envelope. I found it to be in poor taste. There are a lot of etiquette rules that you can bend, though, and this might one that is changing. I would only suggest doing it if you have a web RSVP option; however, if that is the case, why include reply cards at all?
You will risk leaving a bad taste in some guests’ mouths, though, if you don’t inlclude the stamp, so maybe you could put stamps on those who will not be comfortable doing a web RSVP?
Finally, it’s been pointed out on the boards that even the reply card is not traditional etiquette because good manners dictates that you must reply in writing to a formal written invitation!
Post # 5
Hhhmmmm … I’m still all about making the wedding easy for guests! That means a stamp in my book … but that’s just my opinion. I think if you are going to go the route of email/website RSVP then it is okay, but if you expect them to send it back to you, then I would put the stamp.
Post # 6
I agree that if there is an option to RSVP electronically or over the phone explicitly stated on te RSVP card, then it’s okay. Otherwise, it’s a good idea to include the stamps. It’s hard enough to get people to return RSVPs when there are stamps on them! This would just be another excuse to procrastinate or forget to mail it back in on time.
Post # 7
I think that if you want people to mail you RSVPs, you need to put the stamp on them. If the only option is online and you add cards for the people without internet access, those should be stamped. I wouldn’t offer a lot of options: you either RSVP online or you RSVP by mail. It makes it easier to make sure you’re not counting people twice.
Reply stamps are a relatively low cost for the wedding. I know every bit adds up, but as mary-alice-me noted, you don’t want to leave guests with a bad taste in their mouths. It’s under $50 for 100 invites–even less if you do RSVP postcards.
Post # 8
I would include the stamp. This is going to cost you maybe $50 total! If you believe that etiquette is about thinking of your guests and trying to make things both easy and pleasant for them, then you include a stamp. If you really want people to RSVP by phone or email, just don’t include an RSVP card at all. That would actually be a more significant cost savings, if the money is really a concern – not including an RSVP card, the RSVP envelope, and the stamp probably saves you more like $2 – $3 per guest.
Post # 9
In non-bride mode, I rarely mail things — I pay bills online, I send emails, etc. As a result, I rarely have stamps on hand. If I received a response card with no stamp on the envelope, it would probably go in a to do pile. It would almost certainly take me longer to send the rsvp back.
I agree that unless you have an online option clearly indicated on the response, you should include a stamp.
Post # 10
If you make it easy for them (ie include stamps) you may actually get more responses. We decided to forgo them after hearing about how so many people on our guest list would likely forget them anyways. So our options are a) the knot’s list or b) call us. But if it isn’t easy for them to RSVP, you know it’ll end up in a pile on the kitchen table.
Post # 11
You should definitely include the stamp. I am not someone who mails stuff often so I never even have stamps so its quite a hassel to go the post office to buy one when I could just stick it in the mail.
Buy the "Forever" stamps before the price changes. If you buy them at their current price, even when the stamp prices goes up, they are still good to use and you dont have to add the difference. AND if you are doing postcard RSVP’s, the price is cheaper overall.
Post # 12
I’m feeling you bees on this one. If I got an RSVP card that didn’t have a stamp, there is no guarantee it would ever go out the door! And I’m really looking forward to getting those little cards back in the mail, so I think I’ll skip the email response. I was more curious if this is a sign of changing times than a way to save money (as many have pointed out – there are a lot of ways to save more money!) Keep those opinions coming!
Post # 13
Put a stamp on it. In the grand scheme of how much you are spending give the post office a few dollars and remember it isn’t going to make or break you.
Post # 14
I had a slight issue putting stamps on my rsvps as well! My fiance is from the UK so half of the invites are international. I went to the post office to figure out the best way to do this. The postman said that I would have to purchase international redeemable stamp coupons which meant that the English Post office would have to take these in exchange for stamps. Meaning basically that all the guest would have to get to the post office anyway. MY FI’s parents said that is not traditional to put stamps on return address envelopes so I shouldnt bother with the coupon. Besides, who wants to stick an ugly post office coupon in their beautiful invitation? Right choice?
Post # 15
I think that you need to put a stamp on the RSVPs. Not only is it more convenient for the guests you’re inviting- but it is also goign to make your life easier. This way you are able to keep track of the number of people who are actually attending. Without the stamp, it is more likely that they will neglect to send it out on time, or even at all. Stamps are only increasing by $.02 on May 11th. The extra dollars you have to hand over won’t be that substantial…
Post # 16
I have gotten wedding invites that ask us to RSVP online, which I think is a sign of the changing times. But I agree with many of the above that if I received an RSVP card with no stamp I would think it was in slightly poor taste.