Post # 1
and FI is planning on having TWO best men and 4 groomsmen. This is like, the most important thing in the world to him. I will not ask him to change this.
I have a few gf’s who I see occasionaly. Most of them are married already, several don’t have cars, one I know for sure won’t be able to afford to buy a dress (and I can’t afford to help her…I wish I could), and my two closest gf’s live in other states that require extensive travel to get to where I am.
I have a very close male best friend. I have already talked to him about being a Man of Honor in lieu of my best female friend who I would love to have be a Maid of Honor but she is at least a days worth of travel away…
Do you think I should ask the married women I’m friends with? Is that a no no? I’m not really expecting any of these girls to agree, though I’d love it if they could. Would it be weird to be asked by a girl you only see once every other month or so to be in her wedding?
I also have no close female relatives. Neither does FI, though a few of his friends wives have offered to step in if needed (I love these girls! I marry my fiance and gain some awesome friends as well)..
What would you do?
Post # 3
Well, you don’t have to have an even number if that is what you are looking for. I would definitely ask a man of honor and whomever you feel close to.
Post # 4
My only concern is it sounds like it’s going to just be me and a bunch of men standing up there. lol.
Post # 5
It’s okay to ask married women to be in your bridal party, if they’re who you’re friends with!
Post # 6
I don’t see any problem with having your married friends stand up with you. My MOH (and only attendant) is 20 years older than me. People always confuse her with my mom. But she’s my best friend and I can’t imagine anyone else standing up with me.
Post # 7
Thank god I am not the only one with this problem! I only have one female friend from high school, and she is on the other side of the country where I grew up I moved to be with SO. She is also definitely not in the position financially to be traveling… I’m not even sure if she will be able to make my wedding. Besides her, all of my other friends are guys… and of course, they live back where I came from on the on side of the country so I can’t ask them either. It’s been weighing heavy on my mind that I don’t have really anyone close to me to ask, while SO has 4 best buddies that will be standing up there.
I am considering asking my SO’s two girl friends that he’s had since grade school. They like me, and we’re friends… but not “close” or anything. So I’m thinking if I asked those, and he had 4 guys, two guys and one girl can stand on each of our sides to make it look even… and each girl can have two escorts. That’s my current contemplation.
For your situation, I see nothing wrong with asking your guy friend to be your man of honor. And your wedding would look nice having all guys stand up there… say, 3 or 4 on each side. I see nothing wrong with that. There’s also nothing wrong with asking your married friend, if you consider her special enough for the honor.
Post # 8
don’t worry about having even #’s. it’s more important that you have people stand beside you whom you really want. do what makes you happy, even if it’s just your lone man of honor or noone at all. gl!