No supper – still have a seating chart? Help!

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Should I have a seating chart?
    Yes : (1 votes)
    7 %
    No : (13 votes)
    93 %
  • Post # 2
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I have never heard of this and I live in Canada too! If your guests are solely sitting for a couple of speeches and no dinner or food, I would just make sure there are enough chairs for people to sit and let them sit where they please.  Are you serving cake?

    Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I am guessing that this is a budget issue but I would caution agaiinst your plan. If you can’t afford to serve your guests dinner, change it to brunch, have a very casual soup and sandwich supper, do something, but to have a gap so you don’t have to pay for dinner, will not go over well.

    ps I live in Canada too

    Post # 4
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    No, I don’t think you’d need a seating chart in that situation. However, I would make sure that everyone knows there will be no meal. Unless the reception started at like 9 or something, I would assume I’m being fed.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Chani:  I don’t think you will need a seating chart. You’ve probably already covered this with your guests, but make sure they know that there will be no supper provided to them. It may seem obvious to you, but it will not be to them. Make it clear that they should not expect to be fed a proper supper at supper time.

    Post # 6
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I don’t like them at all because i feel like people won’t mix and mingle and stay put at their seats because they were assigned!  How awkward!

    I am NOT having one in an effort to get people out of their seats.  If a couple leaves the table to dance and someone wants to come and chat with their friends sitting at that table, why shouldn’t they be able to sit there and chat for a bit?

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Chani:  interesting concept! I mean that in a non-snarky way, by the way. I’ve never been to a wedding with an event like that. I’m in Vancouver 🙂

    I’m really curious about what time your wedding ceremony will be.  Do you change for the evening too? 

    My opinion doesn’t change though and I wouldn’t bother with seating plans if you are having dancing and drinks.  I probably wouldn’t even have enough seats for everyone or have formal tables settings as some people may prefer to stand and it encourages people to mingle.  Table settings and seats to me would give me the idea of a meal. 

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee

    No seating chart. 

    I know you’re not asking about the dinner thing but I’ve been to over 15 weddings and always appreciate having dinner even if it’s not very good (has only happened once that I can remember). I think the way you phrase it will get the point across. It would suck to go to a 6 pm wedding and be expected to fend for myself. 

    Post # 10
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    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Honestly you will piss off your guests if you have that gap where you skip out for dinner with a select few.  Why wouldn’t you have an evening ceremony around 7 or 8 then have an appetizer reception? This way people would know they weren’t being fed supper. You would not need a seating chart for this but definitely seats for everyone.

    Post # 11
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I also vote no seating chart and hopefully you can find someway to provide dinner or move the wedding to a time where people won’t be expecting it? I don’t know how far along you are in your planning but perhaps the guest list can be trimmed if it is a budget issue?

    Like PPs, I would 100% prefer a not so great dinner (and honestly wouldn’t even care!) as opposed to no dinner at all.  I feel like it may not go over very well when guests realize there is no dinner…

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I think if you say “dance / drinks / midnight lunch starting at 9 pm”, you’re fine regarding the supper thing.  Some people might get lazy and not come back out though.

    I would definitely not do a seating chart – those are appropriate for a dinner where people will be sitting for an hour or two straight.  In your case, they’ll just be mingling and occasionally sitting with friends as they choose.

    Happy wedding! 

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I hope you made it crystal clear to your guests that you will not be feeding them a typical dinner.  I know that, where I live, there are gaps between the wedding and reception (ie. 3 pm wedding, 7 pm reception) but a dinner is served at the reception.  I have a feeling a lot of guests are going to think they’re getting dinner.

    While your gap is plenty of time for people to get their own food, if they don’t know you’re not serving a formal dinner, they will have a light snack and hold off until your ‘party’ (since you’re not calling it a reception).  You really need to get word around that people need to find their own dinner before your ‘party’ starts.  

    Post # 15
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Chani:   The trouble with posting something on the internet is that people feel free to express their opinion and you don’t get to limit the subject of the conversation.

    Sometimes there are Bees who really just don’t know they are being rude, so other Bees try to make them aware . At least then they are making an educated decision.

    Consider this scenario:

    My DH and I would like to invite you over next Saturday. Please come around 3 pm. We will visit for a while, then you can leave, get your own dinner (DH and I will be going out for dinner with those deemed more worthy) then you can come back around 7:30 pm and we will drink and dance for a couple of hours.

    How do you think you would react to that kind of invitation?

     

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