Post # 1
I started a new job in August. Before I accepted the offer I let them know that I’m getting married on November 10th and which days I will need off. They said this is fine (I have the email) and so I took the job.
November 11th is a Monday and a holiday but it’s a working day here so I took it as an unpaid day off. I also took the 8th and 12th. We have plans all of those days and we have a lot of out of town guests attending our semi-destination wedding.
Fast forward to this morning – my time off has been revoked. I’m in HR but I’m the only person in our dept who can do what I do and we are short staffed so I’ve been told I can no longer take off time for my wedding. I showed them (my boss and the CEO) the email from when I first accepted but they said they have the right to change it whenever. They will not budge and I have to work those days. If I don’t, I’ll be fired.
Fiance wants me to quit. He said he doesn’t trust my employer anymore and he said I will regret it if I don’t take time off over the wedding. I’m scared to since I have worked for 14 years straight. Money isn’t really an issue and jobs are pretty easy to come by in this city.
Thoughts from fellow brides??
Post # 3
You still have some time- try to find a new job. then quit. Quitting a job with no backup is very risky and I wouldn’t reccommend it. Good Luck! That is terrible what they did.
Post # 4
@orchidaloha: If you can find something else, then quit. I wouldn’t quit a job without having another one lined up. Yes, a wedding is important. Of course it is! But it is a single event whereas your job is your livelihood that will support all future events. Your partner doesn’t “trust” your employer but they are not there to be your friends. They will make the tough decisions that are best for the business.
I would not make an emotional decision in this case, I would be incredibly logical. It’s not like you are missing your actual wedding! If you can live off of just one income, then that’s a different story. The economy is tough and can be surprising though so I wouldn’t recommend it.
Post # 5
@orchidaloha: I would quit , that’s completely ridiculous that they will not let you have a couple of days off for your wedding
Post # 6
Honestly I would start searching now and then if you say jobs are easy to come by you should be able to switch and take that week off.
If money isn’t an issue I would quit. No offense your family comes before a job. Period. Give them an ultimatum, either give you the time off or you quit. If they are that short handed they may think twice and agree to your time off.
Post # 7
That’s pretty nutty of them. I’d start looking for another job now, but wouldn’t leave (yet).
Post # 8
@orchidaloha: I agree with fellow posters. GET A NEW JOB LINED UP FIRST!!! You dont want to quit and then have something happen to your FI’s job and be SOL. Dont take for granted that you have a job unlike others who are struggling to make ends meet. Do not be selfish.
Post # 9
How easy would it be to find a new job?
Post # 10
That is so ridiculous! I would be so mad! I am the person that makes emotional decisions, so I probably would quit but i definitely think you should see if you can find another job before that. Better safe than sorry!
Post # 11
@crayfish: in this city and line of work I could have something new in a week or two. Finding a new job isn’t an issue.
Post # 12
@orchidaloha: I would start looking, and if/when you have somthing pretty much lines up I would quit. I think they just told you yes to get you hired, which is absolutely wrong.
Post # 13
@orchidaloha: I would look for another job. You’re close enough to your wedding date that you could say you can’t start until the 13th. Then you could opt to quit early if you want.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
If money weren’t an issue, I’d definitely quit. That’s really shady on your boss’ part.
Post # 15
If it’s not an issue finding a new job then start looking now and quit. I wouldn’t want to work for a place like that anyways.
Post # 16
I’m with PPs, find another job, then quit. That is seriously so fudged up of them to do that to you.