(Closed) no unity candle poll

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Unity chandle
    Do what makes you and your FI happy.It's your day! : (67 votes)
    94 %
    Have a unity candle it is tradition. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Unity candle alternative (explain below). : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Keep your ceremony short & sweet if that is what you want but I disagreewith having no unity candle. : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    126 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    It is your day, the ceremony should reflect your personalities and tastes! The unity candle surely isn’t that important right? IMO it has lost significance and I have only seen it at about half of the weddings I have attended.

    Poems + vows + rings + backyard sounds sweet and beautiful to me..

    Post # 4
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    540 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Unity candle takes only a minute or two. 

    Post # 5
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    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I had never even heard of a unity candle until my future-in-laws starts asked if we were doing one – I had to do a quick google search and fiance and I decided we didn’t want to do one. It’s a nice ceremony, but not for us. Besides, I’ve seen too many youtube videos of brides having their hair catch fire! Wink

    Post # 6
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    733 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We aren’t doing unity anything – no sand no candle. We both thing it’s pointless. dH said the ceremony itself is unity enough and I agree. 

    Post # 7
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    1186 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I dislike all of the “unity ceremonies” except for exchanging rings and vows. That right there is enough.

    Post # 8
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    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I think a unity candle is a little redundant considering your vows and ring exhange are already uniting you.  I used to think that I would do one but I’m pretty sure we’ll be skipping it.  I think YOU should do what YOU want on your day and if that means not doing a unity candle, don’t do it

    Post # 9
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    2553 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We arent doing sand or a candle. Idk if we will even have a unity ceremony. We might tie a rope into a knot as a keepsake but idk. Do whatever you want and whatever makes you happy!!

    Post # 11
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    1514 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @alwaysforever8911:  I think you should do what makes you and your fiance happy.  You’re never going to please everyone with your choices, so you may as well do what you like.

    I don’t like the unity candles myself, but my fiance thinks they’re nice.  We’re still undecided whether or not we will include this in our ceremony.  Hopefully at least you and your fiance are on the same page when it comes to this!  Haha.

    Post # 12
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    2869 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I don’t think it’s traditional to have a unity candle in the first place. 

    Post # 13
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    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Calling a unity candle a “tradition” overstates the case.  It was pretty much unknown when I got married the first time (in 1977).  It’s still rather discouraged in Catholic ceremonies.  And let’s face it, the whole marriage ceremony is about unity–you don’t need a candle for that.

    I don’t have a problem with people including a unity candle if they want one.  But it’s certainly not mandatory!

    Post # 14
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    9063 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I don’t see the point in a unity candle. People already know that two lives are becoming one. Everyone knows this already.

    If you don’t want a unity candle, despite it taking “just a minute or two”, don’t do one.

    Plus, then you have three candles you need to hang onto that will take up space in your home or whatever. Do whatever you & your to-be husband feel is best.

    Post # 15
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    4049 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    If you don’t want it, don’t bother. Plenty of people have no unity candle or sand in their ceremonies.

    Post # 16
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    4194 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    Maybe your Mom wants it so that she has a “role” in the ceremony? Normally I’ve seen the Moms light their respective child’s candle before the ceremony.

    Regardless, if you don’t want it, don’t do it. You’ll get the “stink eye” for a lot of wedding stuff (“You HAVE to have music during the ceremony!” “NO, we don’t!”- do what you and FI want.

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