Post # 1
Do I really need to have the parents/siblings escorted down the aisle? Do I need to have ushers? Do you see anything wrong with this plan:
Ideally I would have a basket of programs. Guests arrive and seat themselves (no groom’s side/ bride’s side). At some point the minister and FH come out at the front of the church/ceremony site. Then there is a processional with the attendants (BM/groomsman), then my dad walks me down the aisle.
We are only having about 30-40 guests at most so there is no danger of parents having to sit way in the back or something. I’d really like to avoid having ushers and escorting the parents or FILs down the aisle, is this necessary?
Post # 3
Sounds like my kind of wedding 🙂 I didn’t really plan on having parents and sibilngs escorted in.
Post # 4
I totally agree! We have decided to walk down the isle together behind the members of the wedding party. I didnt want anyone to give me away and to me it signifies us walking into our new lives together. It was something I wanted to incorporate because I wanted our own traditions.
Post # 5
We didn’t plan on having the parents seated at the wedding, but the day before, my wedding planner suggested it, and we tried it at the rehearsal. We ended up doing it the day of, and I am so glad we did. We did not have ushers. Instead, we had my husband’s two brothers seat both mothers, and that was the signal to guests that the ceremony was beginning.
It is completely up to you though! If that is not your vision, don’t do it. Do what you want! It’s your day!
Post # 6
I am a big fan of doing things exactly as you want to do them and since you are having such a small wedding, it would make sense to not have a huge fanfare.
One thing I would say, however, is that you should double check how your parents and his parents feel about this. Some times, during weddings, people get crazy and have expectations that you have no clue they had. These people raised you and your man. If its important to you to honor them, then consider asking them how they feel about it.