Post # 1
I know there have to be Bees out there going sans veil. I went dress shopping this weekend and everyone I was with gave me the 3rd degree about not wanting to try dresses on with a veil. I finally gave in while trying on dresses, but I am planning to not wear one. When I told them my plans, several times, they responded with, “you’re the bride you have to” or “you will regret it” or my personal favorite “you aren’t a bride without a veil.”
Seriously guys? Seriously? Like trying on dresses isn’t hard enough!
How did you bee’s handle no veil haters? 🙁
Post # 3
i don’t think i want a veil either but luckily my mom and sister totally agree… they’re like we dont think you should wear a veil, its not your style lol… I would just ignore all the haters! They are seriously mistaken if they think a VEIL makes the bride! Crazy people I swear!
Post # 4
I had one but I wasn’t really fond of it. I initially planned to just wear it for the ceremony and then the flower fascinator the rest of the time so it wouldn’t go to waste. However, I left it at the hotel! No one gave me any guff for not wearing one, they loved my flower hair piece instead and thought I planned it that way! It even has a little netting so it felt bridal and it complimented my dress beautifully.
The veil doesn’t make the bride. If you want to go without one go for it! I certainly didn’t feel less of a bride. Maybe you should just be vague and then “forget” to bring it. 🙂
In all seriousness, stand your ground. Its about what you and your husband to be wants, not what everyone else wants.
Post # 5
@Captain013: Just ignore them, and do what you want! I really don’t want to wear one either…but I probably will because my mom thinks I need to. It’s just going to be the skinniest veil I can find! And it’s coming off after the ceremony! LOL!
Post # 6
my BFF told me the same thing when I told her I wasn’t wearing a veil (i’ve since changed my mind, but its going to be SUPER short).
Like, gah. When did a piece of tulle define what I am or am not?!?!
Post # 7
Well atleast I am not the only one. Seriously trying on dresses is stressful enough, then my people were telling me I am not even going to look like a bride. Here I am all white dress and feeling like a puff ball…
I agree with you guys, I think I may just “forget it”… haha! take that MOM!
Post # 8
@Captain013: Well, its traditional in society to see brides in long white dress and veils however the taste of individuals vary from place to place.
I will be wearing a mantilla veil (similar to the one the Virgin Mary ) has on not those colors of course but ivory or cream tone since I know that I cannot wear white due to purity issues
Post # 9
Do whatever makes YOU happy. I’m not having a veil because it’d make me feel ridiculous (but then I refuse to wear white too, so I say to hell with tradition). If you aren’t going to like it, be comfortable in it, or anything else, you don’t need to wear one. It’s not about what other people want, it’s about you.
Post # 10
You’d probably get less grief from people if you tried on the veil, and then said you don’t like it. It’s much more difficult to argue with that than with you dismissing veils categorically.
Not that it isn’t up to you either way, but I bet your friends just want to see you try it on.
Post # 11
Yes. Just ignore them, and do what you want!
And it depends on the wedding dress you will wear, whether it is suitable for a veil.
Post # 12
Everyone knew I wouldn’t wear one. I toyed with a birdcage veil for months and it still freaks me out to have something over my face. To me it is just odd… I think the choice comes easily for some and then others teeter totter. I have seen so many beautiful brides without veils, I think it is ridiculous when people say “it makes you a bride”.
Post # 13
the long and short of it is that you’re the bride, it’s your party and you can do anything yu want. 🙂 i’m sure you will look radiant sans the veil.
Post # 14
I am the same way…. Its MY day… My mom wanted me to wear a veil & I do not want to wear one, so I’m not.. I got the…. ” All brides should have a veil” speech too from several people.. and my response… “Not this one!!” lol I am however wearing a fascinator… & my mom made it for me… So i think now she is happy with my “compromise” lol…. but I won’t let her know that I was planning to wear a fascinator all along.. 😉
Post # 15
I’m going veil-less too! FMIL is the only one who’s made comments about it. Get over it lady.
Post # 16
From the get-go I was a NO veil bride. I never pictured myself wearing a veil and to be honest, I’m just not really a fan of how they look. When my mother found out that I was anti-veil, she expressed her displeasure. I told her I would think about it only to get her off my ass but I never really had any intention of giving in. Well, she’s since nagged and nagged about the veil and even got FI’s grandmother to pressure me too. I decided that to make her shut-up happy, I would wear one for the ceremony but ONLY if I was able to make one that didn’t look ridiculous. Paying for a veil is not in the budget so if I can pull it off for $20 I’ll do it. If not, I certainly won’t lose any sleep over it.