Post # 1
Hi everyone, this is probably going to be a bit confusing, so please bear with me!
I’ve been on these forums for probably 8 months or so now. We got engaged in January, and are now coming to the stage of booking our venue (on Friday!). I’ve been spending pretty much all my spare time looking at wedding things, but never really taking things seriously because the wedding won’t be until September 2014 at the earliest (can’t work out how to change my date on my name on here…). So in my head this whole event has been kind of a in-the-far-off-future-probably-event. But now it’s getting to actually become real and I’m freaking out a bit!
I literally have NO VISION of how the day will be, how I want to look, what type of dress I want, anything! Is this normal? It’s not that I’ve spent too long looking at wedding things – as I said I’ve never considered anything very sriously, just looking for fun.
The only things I know for sure are that the ceremony will be at our uni (where we met and spent 5 years together studying, I am still studying there too!) http://www.schonellevents.com.au/weddings-venues-ceremony.html and our reception will probably be there too, depending on the conversation I am having with them on Friday. I also know that I want the colours to be navy, light gold and baby pink. I want the groom in a suit, and me in a wedding dress. BUT THAT’S IT! That’s all I know I want! I can’t even ‘picture myself walking down the aisle’ and invision what I will be wearing, what the ceremony will look like etc etc. I have literally no opinions on anything else – is this normal?
Any suggestions of what to do? It’s not that I’m not excited/don’t want to get married or anything, I guess I just haven’t SERIOUSLY thought about anything. I’ve been trying to in the past few months but everything is just like ‘meh’.
Anyone have any suggestions for decorating, dress, getting my head in the game, anything??
Post # 3
@christoffels: Don’t stress! Up until the full “1 year to go” mark we were both kind of drifing in a sea of indifference toward the details. We had booked the venue, but had taken care of basically nothing else. Once it came down to under 1 year we both sort of sat up and took notice. We started small, booking hotel blocks, but graduated to things like our outfits and paper supplies. Just let it come organically. I had NO idea what I wanted in terms of flowers until I actually met with the florist and she started suggesting things based on what I did know about the wedding. Likewise, just surfing the web (Pintrest? I didn’t use it, but I hear it’s useful) for things you LIKE, even if if they’re not feasible, will help you narrow down what you want.
I actually think that since you don’t have a vision of the dress you’ll go into the shopping with an even more open mind than usual!
Good luck! (And have fun with it!)
Post # 4
@christoffels: Aww cheer up hon, I’m relieved you’re not going blind, that was my first thought when I read your post title 😉 I vote taking a dress shopping trip, it didn’t feel real to me until I put on a dress and all of a sudden it all came together. As for all the other stuff, remember themes and styles and all that are one way to go but they’re not necessary. Plenty of people just have standard traditional invitations and white flowers and food and dancing, no frills necessary. But I’m betting as soon as you start looking at the little details you’ll realize you prefer a certain style and it’ll fall into place then. You’ve got plenty of time, enjoy your engagement and good luck planning!
Post # 5
@christoffels: Do NOT worry about this. Our vision was “stuff we like that would make for a good party”. No theme, no colors. Just like trying on dresses, planning can be just about thinking through the options to figure out what fits, what is most practical, what is most affordable, and what makes you both happy. Start with how you want to FEEL on your wedding day, maybe even make a list of words. Then think about the people you want there and THEN think about all the “stuff” that might inspire those feelings you listed.