Post # 1
So, my fiance and I are not having a wedding cake. Neither one of us like cake, and i can’t tell you the last time I had wedding cake at a wedding (and over the last 2 years, i have been in/attended 14 weddings) Our caterer is doing a big dessert table, with mini pies, mini fruit tarts, mini cobblers, petit-fours, a chocolate fountain with various fruit for dipping, and a few other goodies that I can’t remkember right now. I am a little concerned that my guests will be mad that there is no cake. What do you girls think?
Post # 3
@diggthis32: Doing no wedding cake myself. I never went to a wedding where I tasted the cake even though I do notice if it’s a nice cake. I also get it if you want to carry the thing home and keep it as a memoir. But, not interested in all of that. I think yours is a great idea and pretty unique. It is your wedding and should reflect your taste (and your SO). Go for it.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t be mad! Your desserts sound delicious. People sometimes expect to see a cake, so some people might say annoying things like, “Where’s the cake?” but I honestly don’t think anyone will miss eating it!
Post # 5
We didn’t have one for the same exact reason as you – our food package included a table of mini desserts and neither DH nor I likes wedding cake. I usually don’t eat the cake at weddings, or I’ll just take a small bite to be polite. It seemed like an unnecessary expense. I regret it a *teeny* bit, partly because we ended up slightly below the food and beverage minimum so we had to pay several hundred dollars for nothing, which means we could have had a simple cake made for no additional cost to us. If I had known that ahead of time, I would have asked for a cake. I think in retrospect it would have been nice to have the little cake cutting moment, but it’s certainly not something I’ve lost any sleep over.
Post # 6
As long as you’re still serving others desserts, I think it’s fine to go without cake! All of those delicious options you mentioned should appease any guests with a sweet tooth. 😉
Post # 7
I didn’t do a wedding cake, and I was a wedding cake coordinator/designer for 6 years! I saw what a waste of money it was first hand and knew I didn’t want to put so much money towards it.
We had pies and a s’mores table and everyone was happy!
Post # 8
I think it’s nice for the traditional cake cutting moment – its a good photo op too. You could always do a small one. And it doesn’t even have to be regular cake – could be cheesecake or something like that!
Post # 9
If you don’t want cake, you don’t need cake! You should be fine, and your dessert table sounds amazing!
Post # 10
It’s fine! We’re doing cupcakes but probably no cake cutting (we have no desire to shove cake in each other’s faces, and FI hates frosting).
Post # 11
I don’t think anyone will be mad, especially since you have some sweets for those who want them, but I do think a lot of folks look forward to the ritual of the cake-cutting. So you may want to incorporate some other ritual towards the end of the reception, or create a new one all together, just to keep folks feeling interactive. For a lot of people, it’s not the actual cake that they look forward to; it’s the whole routine of seeing the newlyweds do “something” together.
We did a wine box ritual but moved it to the end of the night, right after our cake cutting, and a lot of people hadn’t seen that done before; we’ve heard glowing feedback from our guests on that.
Post # 12
We arent doing cake either. We want to offer more options & dont want the cake cutting ceremony part of the reception. We are looking at cookies (FI loves cookies) and cake pops? Not sure yet. Our baker is out with kidney stones until Jan so we will know more at the beginning of the year.
Post # 13
@vorpalette: +1!!!! I cant stand th cake cutting ceremony. Its too cheesy & traditional for me. Guests usually arent paying attention anyways.
Post # 14
@PinkAndPearls2013: We didn’t do cake, but we still cut a piece of pie together and fed eachother. Totally still possible to have that fun photo op!
Post # 15
thanks everyone! I dont want to take time from all the fun at the reception and waste it on cutting a cake that we wont even enjoy!
Post # 16
I’ve read about couples dunking cookies in milk and feeding them to each other instead of the whole cake cutting ceremony. Maybe you could do something like that?