no wedding gift from coworkers, but for another coworker

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
4964 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

cadi12345:  Just like what you said, I am assuming that someone has to organize this in order for it to happen. I wouldn’t take offense – this girl’s boss chose to do this. It sounds like none of them actually attended your wedding, so you can’t expect to get a gift from them. A card would have been nice, sure, but maybe there is no one in your department who thinks like that. 

Since it offended you – perhaps you can be the one to circulate a card for the next member in your department who gets married so no one else feels this way. 

Post # 3
42157 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

cadi12345:  It can be very hurtful when people are treated in different ways at the workplace when it comes to birthdays, weddings etc.

Post # 4
988 posts
Busy bee


cadi12345:  I 100% agree with weatherbug:  There’s nothing you can do to change the fact that you didn’t get a gift/card, but you CAN make sure that no one else in your company feels slighted in the future by taking the responsibility upon yourself.

As for how to handle the current gift/bride. Give if you want, don’t give if you don’t want…just don’t make that decision based upon your feelings about your own wedding. It’s not her fault.

Post # 5
4147 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I felt the same, however others before me were the ones who got gifts/cards/parties so I was sort of looking forward to/expecting something.  The last day at work before my wedding, I got called down to the front desk to cover the receptionist while she went “somewhere” and I was like oh I wonder if this is their way of getting me downstairs to surprise me with a little gathering.

NOPE!  There was a gathering, but it was for a woman who just had a baby and came back for her shower.  I was crushed and even started crying when I drove home.  I felt so selfish for even being upset, so I totally understand how you feel.

Post # 6
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013


cadi12345:  I know how you feel. Same thing happened at my work. My boss got me a card, and all my co-workers signed it, which I got after the wedding (which I thought was a little weird but whatever). We had a new guy start right after that and he was getting married about 6 months after he started. When his wedding rolled around they made sure to get him a card before hand, and a gift, which was paid for from our Staff account. There seems to be no rhyme or reason around here as to who gets what. I do like previous posters suggestion of taking it on yourself so no one else feels slighted, like you did. I am however still bitter about my incident so I cant blame you if you dont want to. Im actually expecting my first child now and am intrigued to see if any of them do anything in regards to a gift/baby shower.

Post # 7
544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

This happened to me too. All women who had weddings got a little party and a gift. I got nothing and I was bummed, I’m not going to deny it.  I am not the loudest person in the office and apparently some people didn’t even know why I was gone for three weeks! When I came back I got a card.  

This also happened to my then fiancé but he was the recipient of a party and cake.  Apparently that day another coworker had come back from his wedding and honeymoon and he got nothing, not even a card. To make it worse, he brought wedding favors for every person in the office. Awkward!

I don’t have anything to say other than I sympathize with you!

Post # 8
6633 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I get where you are coming from, this happened to me when got married and with having a child. Nothing was done for either and others have gotten married/had babies and had gifts/showers for them. It sucks, but you really can’t do a whole lot about it unfortunately

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