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Well, if this helps...I had a whole year and never did I bother. I don't feel like stressing myself out to look so "great" for one day. My weightloss is something that more than my wedding will have to handle (meaning, hormones from PCOS make it more difficult to lose the weight and I didn't want to mess with my hormones during our engagement).
Another thing - you still have plenty of time for the hair/skin/nails side of things! And heck, you still have time to at least tone up a bit if that's what you want.
If you really are interested in weight loss you still have plenty of time to make a significant difference, I started on 11/11/11 and three months later I have shed 20lbs already (which is plenty for me to have just a little more confidence walking around town!) if not just pamper yourself with the time you do have, try a keratin treatment for your hair and some shellac nail polish and a pedicure for the toes! You could even do a facial (but be careful if you have sensitive skin). Good luck and remember at the end of this day you will have an amazing hubby who loves all of you no matter what!
@AmeliaBedelia & cwat12:Thanks for answering.
I think I may have some issues with my expectations, and if I could just adjust them, I would be happier. I guess in my imagination, I wouldn't look like I do now when getting married. I always saw what I hoped to be, but that image has never been realistic. I think you're both right that I will have some time to make a few changes. I can still make my hair, nails and skin look good. I'm a little bit hesitant about weight, but I'd just better get my expectations in order if I'm to do anything.
Splurge on your hair and makeup and it will make you feel soooo much better! Your hubby to be loves you just the way you are and you should do the same for yourself. :)
I agree with having some do your hair and makeup.. makes it easier for you :) I plan on having that done myself. Get a mani/pedi, maybe a facial and massage. Make it a spa day!!! No need to lose weight ! You are beautiful and loved at the size you are at. Enjoy your day and remember, it's just the beginning :)
You have time to make some changes if you feel that you need to. I think that even if you dont look excatly how you want to on your wedding day(no ever does), you will feel better about yourself because you know you are on your way. Also you can have some updated pictures taken for your anniversary and put them in your album. This way you can look at it as your marriage helped spark the new healthier you.
I totally agree with the bees, your hubby to be LOVES YOU !! And you need to stop beating yourself up, and start loving yourself too. Pamper yourself a few days before the wedding, getting a facial and your nails and hair done. Treat yourself - you deserve to feel special
@MrsMagnus: I feel your pain...when I was married 28 years ago I went into a regular store and bought a wedding-ish dress in a size 9. Now I just ordered my dress for my encore wedding and it's a size 20! (I'm currently between a regular 16-18). Stress from a bad marriage, stress from ending the bad marriage, PCOS, a new thyroid problem and beginning menopause have all taken a toll. Best advice ever: the sales woman in the wedding dress store who happens to be close to my age said, "Well, he loves you now and asked you to marry him so why stress about your weight?" This is true! I hope to get my act together the best I can before the wedding but there's no sense getting depressed about something I really can't change that quickly. Spend money on a great haircut, get your nails & makeup done, put on your best smile and love your day!
I'm in the same boat as AmeliaBedelia. I've been engaged since February 11th 2011. The first thing I told myself is "I gotta lose weight". A year later, I havent lost a pound ;) Such is life. Between a full-time job, trying to start my business and planning my wedding from afar, working out is the last thing on my mind. (plus like Amelia, I got that whole PCOS to deal with).
Last month, I finally bought my dress and let me tell you, once I had it on, the last thing on my mind was losing weight. I was doing the "booty dance" in the store. I probably would have done cartweels if I could. My dress makes me look like I've instantly lost 20 pounds. My stomach is my problem area and you can't notice it anymore with that dress. I felt like a curvaceous diva. My point is, if you find the right dress, you will make your curves work in your favor. You'll rock the dress.
Focus on what makes you unique and what makes your future hubby so crazy about you. I'm sure he wouldn't love you more than he does now even if you lost 50 pounds. Splurge on the make up, hairdo, manicure, pedicure. You will be glad you did.
I'm in the same boat as AmeliaBedelia. I've been engaged since February 11th 2011. The first thing I told myself is "I gotta lose weight". A year later, I havent lost a pound ;) Such is life. Between a full-time job, trying to start my business and planning my wedding from afar, working out is the last thing on my mind. (plus like Amelia, I got that whole PCOS to deal with).
Last month, I finally bought my dress and let me tell you, once I had it on, the last thing on my mind was losing weight. I was doing the "booty dance" in the store. I probably would have done cartweels if I could. My dress makes me look like I've instantly lost 20 pounds. My stomach is my problem area and you can't notice it anymore with that dress. I felt like a curvaceous diva. My point is, if you find the right dress, you will make your curves work in your favor. You'll rock the dress.
Focus on what makes you unique and what makes your future hubby so crazy about you. I'm sure he wouldn't love you more than he does now even if you lost 50 pounds. Splurge on the make up, hairdo, manicure, pedicure. You will be glad you did.
@MrsMagnus: Oh my I understand exactly how you feel. I am just under 3 months away and have been beating myself up regularly on not starting the weight loss, toning sooner. It's like the more I stress about it, the worse I get, and further I get from what I really want to do. SO. I am just trying to take a deep breath and focus on my eating plan and some exercise. I agree with other Bees that you (we) still have time to make changes that will make us feel better! 1-2 lbs per week is healthy and possible!
It's easier said than done for sure. Stress isn't my weight loss friend. I've had to face the fact that I won't be where I wanted for May 5th but I can be leaner than I am now.
Just start NOW. Don't wait any longer like I did. If it is what you want, You are worth it!
Also, you totally have time to do some things like facials (or regular skin care daily), nails, hair, and other beauty regimens. Definitely not too late.
We can keep each other accountable if you would like!
You have 3 months, you can defnitely make some changes if you wish.
Jillian Michaels the 30 day shred: 20 mintutes per day and after a week I am already seeing changes.
Teeth Whitening strips
You still have time to get a good beauty routine with regard to your skin, hair, and nails.
This might not sound like much but will maky you feel like you are doing a little something every day.
Personally, although I have been trying to improve myself, I think it's best if you just look like yourself on your wedding day (e.g., don't lose 20 pounds for your wedding and instantly regain them afterward). You are beautiful as you are, you're FI and your family love you. If the wedding gets you in the mood to work on your health and fitness, that's great. But be yourself, and love yourself.
I agree with PPs. You can make changes that will make you feel better, even if it won't be a complete metamorphosis, you will have more confidence and feel like your best self. Try starting a workout program, temporarily cutting out starches, drinking more water, going spray tanning, getting your hair and makeup professionally done, or getting your nails done. Even though these are superficial things, they will make you feel more beautiful and confident on the big day. And if you don't do any of these things, just remember that your FI loves you for you, and will think you are the most beautiful woman in the room that day no matter what. Good luck :)
Thanks for all of the advice and support bees! I've had a hard time with this. I've been stressing myself out with so many things and it seems like everytime I look up, another month has just flown by without a single pound shed. I think I've just been caving to the pressure to look "unforgettable" on my wedding day.
I've never been "the pretty one," and I guess I just let it get into my head that this would be the only day that I could actually be pretty (I know how bad this sounds, really I do). I just wanted to be able to take full advantage of this whole glowing beautiful bride thing, and panicked when I realized that it's still going to be me, just as I am standing at that altar.
I will get an exercise routine together, and I will take the advice to go the extra mile with my hair and makeup for the day. I am definitely going to do some teeth whitening for pictures though! He loves me just the way that I am. He wants to marry me. So I will be the best version of me, the woman he loves--not someone else entirely.
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We are having a short engagement. It wasn't really what I had in mind, but I know FI didn't want to wait and ultimately waiting would just drag it all out unneccessarily... But part of me is sad that I won't get the time to have a "wedding metamorphosis" You know, the time that the bride institutes a makeover plan to make sure she is at her best on the big day?
I don't have the extra time to plan and enact the detailed hair, skin, nail and fitness routines that are supposed to take me from ugly duckling to beautiful swan. I'm a stress ball, and all of my self-care went out the window years ago. I've always been big, but I'm near the highest I've ever weighed, and my dress reflects that.
It just hit me that January is freakin' gone. I've been so wrapped up in school, wedding planning and my relationship with FI, that I haven't even settled on a basic nutrition plan to follow. I'm feeling like I will look my worst on my wedding day.
I know that it's about the marriage and celebrating our love, but I'm just feeling a little defeated about what I'm going to look like on our wedding day.