No wedding party

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@emviamama:  I had a great bridal party but considering some of the drama that appears on the board I think you are making a great decision!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@emviamama:  For simplicity’s sake, I only wanted one witness per side but so as to not hurt feelings, we are having 3 and 3. We made a conscious effort NOT to include any children in our wedding because we wanted the best chance of having a smooth affair AND how do I include some kids and not others. My goodness, it’s really the parents that would make it messy. Granted, if I had children of appropriate age, I would include them but I don’t see a need for neices, nephews, grandkids, etc. to stand up for us. Like I said, for us it’s really the parents that seem to complicate matters so we said, if the kids have parents, they aren’t participating. Now if only we knew of some orphans… ha ha ha.

Either way, it’ll be fun. Congratulations on keeping true to yourself on your wedding day!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@emviamama: awesome! i think once you have kids the look and feel of a bridal party changes anyway.  I don’t have any, and I need my girls that have been with me thru 11 years of bad dating choices to stand up next to me while I take the plunge!  To each their own.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@emviamama:  Smile I didn’t take it that way,  I just wanted to give my perspective (since all we see on the bee is how HORRIBLE bridesmaids are and how much the brides can’t stand them LOL)

I think it’s adorable and perfect to have your kids and nieces/nephews in it.  And yeah, I cringe thinking about the gifts I will have to give for my 7 ladies— 7 times anything =  $$$

Post # 10
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477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We didn’t have a bridal party either.  Because we are close to all 48 of our guests, we decided to make it a big “circle of friends” kind of thing.

As it was a DW, we invited all guests to our casual rehearsal dinner the night before (we called it an Open House).  And everyone stood at the ceremony the next day, facing us.

It was awesome.

Post # 11
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436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I am struggling with this right now. Trying to decide on if I want a bridal party or not. I want all the kids (ten between us) to be involved some how so maybe we will just have our kids (age 4-18) be our bridal party 🙂

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@emviamama:  We’re not doing a wedding party either, both FI and I feel that with just the two of us up there it will feel more intimate… and for some reason I just don’t ‘get’ the whole concept. Seems weird to have people just standing there.

I think its lovely that you and your FI want to make the focus about each other and your daughters.

Post # 14
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2358 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

no bridal party here as well. we only have 16 guests, so theres no need for flower girl, ring bearer, or any of that stuff. it was the BEST decision we made. and anyways the ppl we would have selected for our bridal party ALL declined our invitations to attend. so, it was for the best.

congrats on choosing the best way to do it!

the only downsides r that your processional and recessional music will likely be different and if u plan on showers/parties, you might have to do them yourself or communicate to someone to do them for you. or do like me, and go without!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Not planning on a bridal party either. just saves a lot of hassle that way. I am considering the two youngest nieces/nephews thiugh as flowergirls and pageboys (one will be 5, the other currently in the oven so we dont know gender). I think this is cute, because princesses typically have lots of little kids attend them rather than bridesmaids, and i i choose the kids that’ll make me feel like a princess :). 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

We had one on each side, and I wouldn’t have had it any other way.  I am an only child, and my mother lives far away, so I did need someone to help with things like addressing invites, and a little DIY. Also to assist me wih my dress and be my point person at the reception.  But more than that? Forget it. I see the BM drama on these boards and can’t help but think it is all very predictable and avoidable.

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