(Closed) No wedding planner…any advice?

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Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You can TOTALLY do it! I am using a day-of coordinator, but honestly, it’s just a nice to have so I don’t have to ask friends to set up centerpieces and the aisle runner and that kind of stuff. I’m doing all the planning and could certainly get by without a DOC if I needed to.

I have tons of unsolicited advice, LOL! What are the things you are most nervous/unsure about?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We planned our own wedding. I took a checklist from the Cleo magazine which was really helpful. There are a ton of wedding checklists online. I created my own ‘master list’ and just ticked stuff off as I went along. You do have to be somewhat organised and enjoy planning things though. How is it going so far?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t have a wedding planner either. I am ashamed to admit that I have had a few Bridezilla moments…lol…can we say control freak? And as an added bonus FI has turned “zilla” on me too…what has helped is designating tasks to each other. So far we haven’t killed each other and things are getting done so I guess we will be okay in the long run 🙂

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

TONS of people don’t have wedding planners – NBD!  I am one of them and I am really relying on my Mistress of Ceremonies who I have 100% confidence in!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I didn’t have a planner and I did it ALL BY MYSELF!

ETA: We didn’t have a master and mistress of ceremonies either.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

As far as planning?  No problem.  Did every bit of it myself.  Day of?  I would ABSOLUTELY recommend having a coordinator.  And not a friend, a professional.  Let your friends enjoy the wedding without asking them to work.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t have a wedding planner but I love planning things. It isn’t that hard to me. Like others said, get a checklist and do everything one by one!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@RoyalLime:  😛 Well aren’t you awesome!

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@mchitt329:  HAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Sorry didn’t mean to come off that way. Just proving it’s totally feasable. We had a 235 person wedding.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@RoyalLime:  LOL no worries.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

No planner here. We have a DOC because our reception venue came with one, and our officiants will run our rehearsal/ceremony, but the DOC is also the venue contact. Maybe I’m just crazy organized, but it’s been pretty easy.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Don’t stress. I organized our BIG 300 person city wedding all on my own. Here are a few tips:

1. Make lists of things to do

2. Set deadlines for things to be done

3. Make itineraries for the day-of and pass them out to your families and bridal party so they can help out if you are unavailable.

4. Make sure all your vendors have a copy of the itinerary and are on board

5. Remember, everything won’t go exacty as planned, but nobody will know that but you!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Any vendors you use you need to communicate, communicate and then communicate again. I didn’t have a wedding planner, but I also didn’t do any DIY (well besides ordering some place cards from Party City and doing the calligraphy, but it isn’t like I put them together), so I had a florist that was basically crafting anything and then the venue was providing linens, chair covers, etc. (I had no input in that by the way, so if you feel particular about your linens, ask about that.) 

The venue that I used had someone there who was the event coordinator. She was on hand the day of the wedding, and she was the one we met with about what we wanted, etc. She actually put me in touch with the florist I ended up using. A week before the wedding, I met with her and went over every detail down to the finest things to make sure that she and I were both on the same page. I gave her the things she would need to put out for me on the day of, like the specialized place table numbers I’d ordered with the little electronic lights to go inside. I even told her what I had asked of the florist so that if she made a mistake the DOC (not her official title, but I guess technically what she was) would be able to help fix it. I also had my mom and sister who knew exactly what I wanted and had requested. I think it’s important to have someone there who knows exactly what you want and have asked any of your vendors for (this includes any vendor, not just the florist, that was just in my case) so that things can be fixed before the wedding starts. Also someone who can be outspoken at times when you may feel that you need a little backing. My mom had actually been to a wedding at my venue a month before mine and when we sat down with the DOC (or event coordinator) she had a short list of things that she didn’t want to happen at my wedding. LOL – I never would have had the guts, but my mom definitely does. 

Be organized, that’s another big one. My mom was the one who really was organized for me since she was paying for the wedding and therefore helped me plan all of it. We had a binder, with sections for everything we would need. There was a band section, florist, venue, caterer, etc. etc. We had a section with my name and my husband’s name and in that section there were To Do lists for each of us, as well as our guest lists and things like my dress or his suits, etc. I know it maybe sounds a little hyper, but trust me, we had EVERYTHING. On the day of the wedding when we went to sign the marriage license I had a panic that we forgot to bring it. I noticed the wedding binder sitting in the bridal suite, opened it up, and there it was sitting pretty. Organization is also key to being calm and in control on the day of. 

Not everything I had wanted went down on the big day, and there were some things that exceeded my expectations. I was terrified of the way the ceremony was going to look since all of the pictures I’d seen from my florist of her other ceremony sites were the total opposite of what I wanted. I showed the event coordinator pictures of what I wanted, I was prepared to walk in on the day of my wedding and have her change everything… In the end? It was PERFECT – more than perfect. It was beyond what I wanted and exceeded my expectations. Were there other little hiccups? Sure – but the things that went and looked wonderfully outshone the things that didn’t, and at the end of the day, I had other people who could worry about those things for me since my job was to be calm and marry my best friend. 

P.S. A few weeks before the wedding we sat down with the band and spoke to them about all of our song choices, and they wrote it down in a spreadsheet so they would have everything covered themselves. It’s important to make sure you use reliable vendors (band or DJ) who will make sure to be organized with you so that they don’t mess up your walking down the aisle song or your father/daughter dance song. If they refuse to write up their own list you should do it for them. Again, just organization stuff. 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think most people don’t have a wedding planner, but you should have someone be your Day of Coordinator. I don’t mean you have to pay someone, but you should have someone, other than you, take care of the details the day of. Becareful because some venues have someone called the DOC, but what they really do is coordinate the catering/food timing. Be very clear what their responsibilities are.

I had my MOH be the DOC–I told everyone, once the music starts and I walk down the aisle, every question should be aimed at her and every decision is her’s to make (and I 100% agree to whatever she decides).

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