Post # 1
Is anyone considering not wearing a white dress? For many reasons including my wedding location (a farm), my size (5’10/size 14), my complexion (fair, fair, fair!), and my philosophy about our budget (I’d rather put the dress budget toward toward our awesome photographers!), I’ve decided to wear a knee-length bridesmaid’s dress from J Crew that I got on clearance for 99 dollars that I just love.
I *know* I will feel more confident and cute in the dress I bought, but I just have this small nagging “you won’t look like a bride” feeling. I’m planning to carry a white bouquet, wear pearl/white-ish jewelry, and at sport a white flower in my hair, but I can’t find any pictures of brides who have gone this route.
Did anyone here wear a non-traditional wedding dress in an otherwise traditional wedding?
Post # 3
Look at offbeatbride.com. They have all sorts of brides that have awesome, non white wedding dresses.
Post # 4
You are the bride, thus you will look like a bride. 🙂 I think there is nothing wrong with wearing something out of the oridnary. My one and only caveat is to make sure that you are ok with never having the all out big ‘ol bridal dress since this is (hopefully) the only chance you’ll have. If you are ok with that – where whatever you want, feel confident, and smile big!
Post # 5
I think knee-length can be cute. If you feel confident in it, then I think that is all that matters. What color is it? Remember Mrs. Candy Corn wore a short dress and she was absolutely darling!
Post # 6
I’m not sure what I’ll end up with, but I’m definately not ruling out other dresses just because of the color. If I want to get married in a hot pink gown, I’ll do it.
What color dress is it? I think the more coordinated you are, the more bridal it will feel. Example: Color scheme – pink, gold, white (just bear with me)
Pink dress, white shoes with gold accents, white flowers tied with pink ribbon. White bridcage with fascinator of either gold or pink color.
Although color may seem less bridal, there’s definately plenty of people who have done it. Check out Offbeat Bride. Happens all the time.
Post # 7
Remember the episode of Sex and the City when Miranda was shopping for her wedding gown?! She didn’t want white, see said “I have a baby, the jig is up!” Ever since that moment I’ve loved brides with enough confidence to pull off a dress in any color! So wear your J. Crew and rock it!
Post # 8
Thanks all! This board is such a great help.
The dress is “tropical aqua” (aka “nowhere near bridal-colored at all”:)
My colors are robin’s egg blue (a less-saturated hue of the dress) and tomato red-orange. My girls have their choice of dress in tomato, true orange, or coral.
I love the idea of a birdcage/fascinator.
Thanks for the lead about Offbeat Bride too!
Post # 9
I love that dress and I think it’s totally adorable. I think you’ll look bridey, because, well…you’re the bride! One of the most beautiful brides I’ve ever seen was a family friend who wore a gorgeous black evening gown. It was so elegant and classic that it never felt strange that she was wearing black not white.
I love the idea of adding a facinator!
Post # 11
I’m wearing a blush pink dress. I think if you add the birdcage veil and other accessories you’ll look like a bride
Post # 13
Wear what you want! 🙂
I personally want to wear either dark red, dark purple or maybe even black…
Post # 14
Wear a veil with your dress = instant bride! You could wear a short veil to befit your short dress. I think it would look adorable and very bridal.
Post # 15
White is actually a recent trend in the grand scheme of history. Colored dresses are actually much more traditional since they have been worn alot longer (and in some areas, white is not even considered for the bride since it symbolizes mourning).
That said, my dress will be colored (not sure exactly what yet but it will be dark) for the fact that white is not flattering on me at all, and neither is ivory or any other pastel color. I don’t own anything in those colors that I wear everyday so it doesn’t make sense to wear something I know won’t work for me on my wedding day when I’m supposed to look great.
Your guests won’t miss the detail that you are the bride no matter what color you are wearing or what accessories (or lackthereof), simply for the fact that you are the one who will be up front exchanging vows. If someone still misses that, then they have problems. You don’t have to wear a veil if you aren’t comfortable with it. Be yourself, whatever you decide.