No wonder my mother was horrified…

posted 3 years ago in South East Asian
Post # 3
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Cynderbug:  Strange.  I’ve never heard of any of those things.  My parents are very modern so they have never voiced being unhappy with any of the decisions we have made.

Post # 4
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6812 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m not asian, but I just wanted to say you’re not the only one going through this.  My Greek friend who has been to like a gajillion Greek weddings keeps finding out new traditions from her mom all the time lol.. I think it’s just par for the course.  I just wanted you to know that you weren’t alone and hopefully you would get it all worked out.  Having these cultural traditions is really a beautiful thing.  Embrace it, because it’s part of who you are and where you and your ancestors came from.  I think traditions are wonderful, even if we no longer ‘believe’ in them anymore, they still symbolize how you are different from other cultures in a beautiful way.  That’s just my take on it!  I’ve seen some really awesome asian weddings before.  Honestly, I wish I could take one thing from every culture and do it except that would be like the longest ceremony ever LOL 🙂

Post # 7
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6812 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Cynderbug:  What about the person who officiates the wedding?  Wouldn’t they know and be taught all the customs?  Like, I’m Jewish, so if I were to have a Jewish wedding, it would be officiated by a Rabbi, who would know of everything that is a “necessary” custom.  Who officiates a Chinese wedding?

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