Post # 1
Sorry! I need 2 minutes to go batty!
Fiance and I are planning a destination wedding for Feb 2014. Awesome, and yes, the prospect of being on a warm, sandy beach away from Canada’s harsh winter is a lovely thought. But no, you’re not invited! Seriously!!! I’ve had random strangers when they find this out ask “so when’s the wedding?” while pulling out their calendars. Ok, at least I know this is a joke.
What’s worse is co-workers and aquaintances. People that ok, maybe if we were doing something local might….MIGHT… get an invitation on the B list side of things. But we’re not! We’re planning for 30 people max and each one of those people are super special to us. The wedding is over 3000 km away!!
So yeah, I’m going to look at them a little dumbfounded when they say “Ah, February 2014. I’ll start saving now” or “oh, that will be a great vacation time for John Doe and I. Can’t wait!”. Really? Really? Now I’m trying to understand how someone, oh, say the most recent person to say something like this, our building concierge, would think they’d be invited to a destination wedding. You’ve called me a cab once in 3 years. That does not a wedding guest make!! Not to mention, it’s keeping me up at night wondering whether you were serious in your assumption you were coming along.
I dunno, I guess I’m just sick of putting my head down and mumbling that it’s for close friends and family to all these, feels like hundreds, people who think they’re invite worthy. Seriously, I would never assume I was invited to a wedding, let alone a destination affair. I mean, if it were my sister that’s one thing but the coworker who only talks to me when she’s in the copy room, absolutely not!
Sorry…just needed to blow off some steam. All good now!
Post # 3
How funny..hopefully he was joking.Usually people complain about the lack of people excited about their destination wedding.
Post # 4
How are they going to know where in the world it is if they haven’t got an invitation?
You could always just tell people that you’re planning a small, intimate Destination Wedding and specify that it’ll just be close friends and immediate family.
Post # 5
Lol.. ahhh gotta love people. I’m dreading the guest list part the most when I think of wedding planning. Yikes!
Post # 6
I’m having a Destination Wedding too and dreading that stuff. Good luck!
Post # 7
Since it’s in 2014, I’d just chuckle at them. If they ask for details, you don’t have any yet. By the time you get ready to invite your 30, most of the people will have forgotten about it or might not be in your life anymore. Just don’t talk to everyone about the wedding. Only talk to those involved. After wedding, tell the world.
Post # 8
My friend (in canada also…having wedding in hawaii this january) had the same problem. be VERY careful with invitations, in fact, I’d use an online RSVP thing so that people can’t add lines to RSVP cards and invite their relatives or kids etc.
Her venue only allowed 40 people or else the prices goes through the roof for every extra guest, and people did the line adding to her invites so now she has 55
Post # 9
Euch, it drives me nuts when people do this! We had Mr CL’s mum’s aunt get really cross with us because we’re not inviting her. I’d never met her, Mr CL hadn’t seen her since he was about 7, we’re paying for our own wedding and we don’t want people there who we don’t know! Luckily Mr CL’s mum stepped in and told her in no uncertain terms that we won’t be inviting her. She then proceeded to spend half an hour telling me that when her daughter got married they did everything themselves so they could afford to invite more people and how they were all washing dishes at 4am. Piss off! There’s a good reason I’m having a venue do all this for me!
Just ignore them. Like PP have said, I expect by the time you’re sending out invitations they’ll have forgotten about it. And if not, just say that you’re only having 30 guests. If they think they should have made the cut, they’re clearly deluded.
Post # 10
LOL oh people…. they crack me up. If you makes you feel better, I just found out that my guest list needs to add 30 more people from SO’s side (totally unplanned for). 😛 Wish me luck in figuring out who to cut!
Post # 11
Eh I don’t get why this upsets people. Sure its horrible when people assume they are invited but most people are ok with the small intimate wedding reply. You could just look at it in a positive way instead- so many people care about you and would love to be included on your wedding day- I don’t see how that is a bad thing!
Post # 12
Rant it out. We’ve got someone who knows Fi can’t stand them and I barely tolerate aggressively trying to include themselves onto wedding projects under the assumption that since we’re mutual friends with my bridal party OFCOURSE she’ll be invited. uh…no? Along with some non-close college pals who clearly just want a free party/reunion.
I do agree it’s awesome people are excited, don’t worry you won’t have serious invite crashers until it gets much closer to the date. : )
Post # 13
@honeybee1999: +1- so agree. They are saying things now- but a year from now, they may very well forget or don’t have the money to come. Don’t worry about it for now.
Post # 14
Calm down. I’m sure he’s joking. Honestly, if you don’t want to invite the person, be vague and say, “the wedding will be sometime next year, not exactly sure!” and leave it at that. If you start going off about how great and warm and fabulous your Destination Wedding is going to be, of course people will joke about wanting to come.
Post # 15
Sooo many people have invited themselves to our wedding. HATE IT! I totally feel you on this.
Post # 16
Honestly, I had a Destination Wedding and I felt the way many of you felt…it is a year away, they ain’t coming! Ha, and then the alarm clock rang, and I woke up to 78 (yes 78) wedding guest at my Destination Wedding. I planned for 40. So, while it was beautiful, and I was perfetly happy to pay for everyone who wanted to come, it did knock my plans out of wack. My centerpieces, escort cards, place cards, menus, etc, all had to redone for basically double. Part of it was my fault. I gave out what I thought were “courteousy invitations.” Never expected most of them to come. So I would be very careful about who I gave invitations to, and don’t give out details. Be very vague. Bottom line in, you can’t keep them out of the country, but you can keep them out of your wedding! Lastly, I want to say that my wedding day was the best day of my life, and soooo much fun, but not at all what I expected. I hope yours turns out to be the wedding of your dreams also.