(Closed) Noisy Neighbor Advice

posted 7 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m assuming you live in an apt complex?  Call apt management.  If that doesn’t work, call the police and make a noise complaint.  You obviously tried to do it the civil way and they don’t want to play.  So now I’d let a third party step in.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Do you live in an apartment building? ARe they right below you or next to you or above you? Unfortunately I would not advise approaching them directly because they will most likely get defensive and if they aren’t breaking any rules they will continue to be loud and obnoxious. Even if they are breaking actual rules, they won’t listen to you since you aren’t the ones who enforce them. It would be like your sibling telling you that you broke curfew and to get in earlier the next night.

If you’re in a complex, check with the management company to see if they have any rules about quiet hours and obviously you can call the police if they continue to be loud in the middle of the night. Slamming doors when they come home, most likely not breaking any rules. But if they continue to get in trouble for it from management or the cops, they might slam a little softer in the future.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would speak to them in person first. You haven’t tried to do it the civil way, banging on the floor is rude (not to say that they didn’t deserve it). Next time it gets a little loud I’d knock on the door and say hey I’m sorry but we don’t work the same schedules and we really need to get some sleep, could you please at least turn the bass down on your tv/surround sound and if there’s anything we can do during the hours you’re sleeping please let us know. If that doesn’t work then you should contact the management company. If you go straight to the management company and file a complaint they’ll probably just file one right back against you. But at least if you try to be civil about it and give them the opportunity to talk to you about it they might realize it’ll be easier to try and work together to achieve a living situation that works for everyone. And if you just automatically call the cops you’re going to have an enemy sharing a wall with you until someone’s lease is up.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Find out if your apartment has a “light’s out” type thing.  At mine (it’s a house converted into an apartment), everyone is supposed to be out (visiters, that is) by 11pm.  HOWEVER, that doesn’t mean everyone at the place obeys it (myself included).  

The point is, if they aren’t obeying the “lights out” rule of thumb (quiet after a certain time), you can complain to the landlord/apt management.  

If that doesn’t work, call the cops and file a noise complaint.  The obviously know what they’re doing (stomping of the feet after the banging on the door) and don’t care or enjoy making others miserable.  

I wouldn’t approach anyone who yells profanities at each other before work.  It doesn’t seem the brightest thing, to me.  But then, i’m also a petite female who doesn’t look very menacing, lol.  (my FI, exact opposite, lol).

good luck and I hope you get a resolution to this soon!!!! 

 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@lindseyrose: it sounds like a good letter and worded nicely.  here’s hoping it works!!!  the only problem I can see is them claiming they didn’t get the letter if you end up going to the landlord.  

Talking to them in person would be better.  

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree that you should try to talk to them, but I wouldn’t expect much since what they did when you kind of said something, haha, they didn’t take it too well, but after that if the noise isn’t getting better, then I would talk to your landlord or the police, but I also agree that they may claim they didn’t get that letter, so I would just talk to them and say exactly what your letter says.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

@lindseyrose: I still don’t think talking to them is a good idea, but if you think it will work then give it a try. I would honestly file an anonymous complaint with either your management company or the cops. Because if you talk to them first and they don’t listen, then you try the ‘anonymous’ complaint it won’t work. They will know it was you and you will have an instant enemy. If they are the type of people to yell profanities at each other I just really find it hard to believe they would reason with nice cookie baking neighbors. Good luck!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hey, this is random but I did some mediation for neighbor disputes, and one was a similar situation.

The ‘noisy’ client was actually really offended when the ‘quiet’ client gave him a note instead of speaking to him directly. We ended up having a conversation about cultural differences regarding communication. I think its a good idea to try to meet with them in person- I know its hard, and I’d probably try to avoid it if it was me ’cause I suck at that kind of thing. But if you meet in person, and just say the things in the letter, use a lot of “I statements” and welcome them to the building too, you’ll have definitely taken the “right” first step. Do it with your partner together.

If the noise continues, even once, give them a letter. While you’re doing this, I’d also check with your landlord about his/her policy re: noise.

Filing a noise complaint should be the last resort, but is totally within your rights if they are disrespectful to your polite and reasonable requests. Its hard to evict someone, so they will probably be your neighbors for a while and getting a noise ticket will piss them off.

Good luck!

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