Post # 1
I ordered corsages and boutonnieres for: my parents, sister (only bridesmaid), fiance, his brother (only groomsman), his parents, his stepparents, my grandmother (only grandparent in attendance) and the 2 ushers (fiance’s 2 close friends).
My fiance also has a sister and a brother in law we hardly see. They are not in the bridal party. They seem to think that this wedding is going to center around them as they are trying to match her dress and her daughter’s dress to the wedding colors. Apparently the brother in law and their son are getting the same color suit as my fiance. I hate the matchy matchy idea and that they are trying to control this, by the way…
But my question is: are they expecting flowers? Should I care? Because the thought didn’t even cross my mind until learning that they wanted their outfits to match us. Which annoys me and makes me REALLY not care about giving them flowers. If they expect flowers, would it be justified somehow? Another side note: my family is paying for everything even though the mom said grooms side typically pays for flowers (but actually didn’t end up paying a nickel for anything)
Post # 3
Flowers are only provided to those in the wedding (attendants, parents, and grandparents, and officiant if you chose). They are not necessary for other famliy members. Some people like to denote them as family and provide flowers, but you don’t have to (we aren’t). Whoever is paying for the flowers should have the final say in if they want to do the extras or not. But it’s not customary or traditional to do so.
Post # 4
We don’t have any siblings as part of our wedding party. It was too hard to pick some and not the others. We are close with our siblings and they have been instrumental with helping out. We are giving them flowers to wear on the big day because it feels like a good way to recognize them and let people know they were a big part of everything.
It sounds like they are expecting flowers and feel like they deserve automatic recognition. It doesn’t sound like they have done much to help or be supportive. Yet they want extra recognition? I vote no flowers for them.
Post # 5
I think the best is to just leave it to parents grandparents and the wedding party. Even though it was very nice it was really awkward that my cousin gave me flowers to wear for just designing the invites.