Non-Cash Payment for Private Sale (selling my dress to someone)?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
2460 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I would personally not do Paypal. If she has received the dress then she can’t make a complaint about not getting it, but she could complain about the actual dress and try to get her money back. Bank transfer is a little less risky, as long as you don’t let her leave without the money clearing your account. But, really, both of those options mean she would be paying with cash that she should have so I would just tell her cash or nothing.

Post # 4
1548 posts
Bumble bee

@redband:  PayPal is a safe transaction for both parties. I use it wen selling and couldn’t b happier

Post # 6
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Can you just hold the dress until the money clears?
Let her know that you want to avoid headaches over this later (just in case something goes wrong), and if she wouldn’t mind picking up the dress after the money clears, you would be more comfortable with that Let her know that you will hold the dress and take any listings for it down if she wants to buy it.

I’d attach a sign to the dress after she saw it and decided she liked it “SOLD: to Girl’sName, (contact information), Payment pending” so she felt more comfortable with it.


Post # 8
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Don’t do it! When they pay via paypal and pick up the dress, they can open a claim and say that you never shipped, and since it was a local pick up, you have absolutely no proof of delivery. Could this person actually be legit? Perhaps. However I would not suggest you take the chance. If they have money in Paypal, they can transfer it to their bank account and then come try the dress on in a few days once the funds have cleared to their account. 

ETA ~ Yes if she pays with her credit card she can file a charge back and say the item was never received and with no tracking number you won’t have a leg to stand on.

Post # 9
534 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

PayPal is safe and secure.  Just be sure to sign something in person when she picks up the dress…something like, “Dress-buyer is paying @redband $1300 via PayPal for a wedding gown.  Dress-buyer acknowledges receipt of the dress on X date.”  And give her a receipt also.  That way you each have something in writing that the transaction took place.

Post # 10
450 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sailor_girl:  This.


Make sure you both sign a receipt, then you have proof if she tries to open a claim.


I can understand where you’re coming from as a seller, and where she is coming from as a buyer. Paypal is generally a safe route, as long as you cover your bases.

Post # 11
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Can you ask for a certified check instead?

A post office or a bank can provide this… basically she pre-pays the check before she gives it to you. The money HAS to be paid up front, and is pre-withdrawn from her account.
I did this when I bought my car; I had to pay the money upfront to the bank and then later I gave that check to the dealer. Some venues request this, too (ours is requesting it for the last payment).

And yes, I agree with the written receipt. Maybe even photographs if you feel that might help.
The problem with Paypal is she could set up a dispute to get her money back, and if you don’t have evidence that she received the goods, you could be out some money for them.


Post # 12
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@sailor_girl:  the receipt is a good idea.


@redband:  if she is coming to you, why can she not bring cash? or a certified cheque?

Post # 14
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@redband:  if counterfeit money or carrying a large amount if cash is a concern, then certified cheque is a good security measure. It only costs about $7 from my bank.

Post # 15
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I would want cash or certified cheque before I handed it over. PayPal is great for online stuff, but I don’t see the point in person. 

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