Post # 1
So one of my favourite “movie weddings” is from How to Marry a Millionaire – where Betty Grable and Marilyn Monroe’s characters end up being last minute and impromptu bridesmaids at Lauren Becall’s wedding. It’s elegant and relaxed.
With this in mind I had asked my two bridesmaids (friends i’ve known for +10 years) to just pick a dress and wear whatever they want. Unfortuantely this opened a pandora’s box of them wanting to coordinate colours, get dresses made, etc, etc. I really do appreciate that they want to put that much thought into it but now it’s on me to try and give some direction. I still want to do non matching dresses but every picture i’ve found so far has at least 3 bridesmaids in it.
Does anyone have any pictures or advice on how to make it all work?
Post # 3
I think they can look fine wearing whatever they want. However, if you want some cohesion I think the easiest way is to pick a color. I asked my bridesmaids to all black dresses. I think it was easy because there’s not much color variation like if you asked everyone to wear blue or something. They looked gorgeous!
You could also tie things together with an accessory like tights, cardigans, wraps, etc.
Post # 4
I think if you have shades of a color in your wedding (say blue) and asked them to stick a couple shades within a certain color (like midnight), that it will make it easier and more cohesive, especially when you include flowers in a variety of shades!
I really want to do this with my wedding but an not planning on having bridesmaids. Right now I am thinking I’ll ask my sister and his sisters to get a certain color so that we can have those fun photos despite not having a BP!
Post # 5
I think it could look nice, I would just have some level of coordination – same colour, same fabric, same length, same straps (or no straps), etc.
I am just having two bridesmaids (one MOH, one BM) as well, and will probably have one of them wear one wedding colour and the other one wear the other wedding colour, preferably the same dress.
I agree with PP that you could tie them together with accessories, or hairstyle even.
Post # 6
@AlwaysSunny: I would have loved to pick black, but my parents were strictly against black for cultural reasons. They’ve been very relaxed about everything so far so I’m conceeding on this point.
@lorakath: I’ve thought about this but i’m still trying to figure out a ‘wedding colour’. Also I wish I had a sister, I honestly would have just told her to turn up in a dress and hold some flowers with me on the day 🙂
@Jacqui90: I’ll give this a go as they both look excellent in different colours – but i guess the key is the same dress or at least same shape/material?
Thanks so much for the advice guys!
Post # 7
I am having 2 BM’s too. And they are wearing non matching dresses. The first objective was a short black formal dress. Then one BM didn’t feel comfortable wearing a short dress. So we just changed to one wearing short and one wearing long(the second BM didnt want to wear long) In the end, for us we wanted them to both be comfortable, and be able to wear the dress again..
I think if you at least give them a specific colour, that may help:) Good luck
Post # 8
because we’re having a DW with just us, and our two groomsmen, and two bridesmaids, we’re not doing ‘bridal party’ outfits. They’re just going to wear cute dresses – probably ones they already own. I think when I’m over at theirs closer to the day, I’ll get them to dig out a few options, and see if there’s a couple that will look nice together, similar levels of formality etc. because obviously we can’t have one in a full length, bright pink crystal beaded satin gown, and the other one in a smart blue shift dress and chic nude heels. In case you can’t tell, the latter would be my preference for the tone of the ceremony.
Post # 9
I had two MOH’s, and DH had a BW so still 3 women in the WP, but I think it looked great with everyone choosing what they wanted to wear. The only direction was warm colors (pinks, reds, corals, etc.) We did tell the BM to get a basic black tux so he didn’t really get to choose whatever he wanted. 🙂
Post # 10
@Pixel8: I was in my best friend’s wedding last summer. There were two bridesmaids and we wore totally different dresses (two different jewel tones, different necklines, different length, different embellishments). I can send you a photo of you’d like, but I don’t want it posted on the bee for privacy.
Post # 11
@Pixel8: also, we (the two bridesmaids) set out to get dresses made because even though spending so much on dresses is usually a pain, we love our friend and wanted her to have her perfect wedding! We thought she was relaxed about our attire because she was being overly considerate of us.
The bride did finally clarify that she’d prefer mismatched dresses. We still sent her pictures to confirm she’d be happy with what we chose.
Post # 12
@Pixel8: Like PP’s stated, I’d pick a color and a length. For instance, knee length and coral colored. Now you and I know that “coral” comes in a million shades but just giving them that little bit of direction will help them focus their energies all the while knowing that they are keep you happy.
Post # 13
@Pixel8: I hear you. I have two girls (and a bridesMAN) and really wanted to do the same fabric and color but two different necklines…
To me, it looked like they belonged at two different weddings! I can’t believe how much I hated it once I saw it.
IMHO, if you only have 2, they HAVE to match. Is one of them your MOH?
Post # 14
I had only two and they wore different dresses bc they have substantially different body types. It didnt’ look bad… The one thing I would “try” to do though is have them wear the same material. My girls choose different material and although it looked ok, I think it could have looked better. However, my main goal for my wedding was to have fun and be happy and I wanted everyONE to be happy and they were. My MOH said this was her favorite dress for any wedding b/c she GOT to pick it and she’s been in over 15 weddings!!!! LOL
Post # 15
Thanks so much for the advice and pictures everyone! Regardless of material fabric – i think everyone looks great 😀
@flowercrowns: Are you one of my bridesmaids but sent back from the future to give me advice? Both my friends really wanted to get dresses made while I’m still jsut worried about cause too much of a bother. If it’s not too much trouble, i’d love to see a picture in PM and I defintiely wont’ distribute. I just kind of want assurance in my own mind it’ll work…
@BurlapnLace: I won’t be designating an MOH, they’re both as awesome as each other 😀 Ultimately, while i’d prefer mismatched, they’re keen on matching. We’ll try on some dresses for the first time this weekend so we’ll see how this goes 🙂
Post # 16
I’ve got three bridesmaids. Two are wearing the same tea-length dress but in different colors (peacock blue and clover green) and my third bridesmaid is wearing a long dress in horizon blue. They’re matching in with the over all color scheme of the wedding, which is blues, greens, and ivory. I didn’t want matchy-matchy dresses.