Post # 1
I’m looking for a non-religious alternative to the word “blessing.” Before we exchange rings, our officiant is reading a lovely passage about hands. (see below). However, she calls it the “blessing of the hands”, which doesn’t fit with the rest of our ceremony which has no reference to anything religious or spiritual.
Any suggestions for alternatives?
These hands you are holding on your wedding day are the hands of your best friend, your confidant and your partner. These hands will work with you to build your future together and to fulfill your dreams. These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years. With a gentle touch, they will comfort you. They will hold you in times of fear and grief. These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it. In years to come, these hands, wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.
Post # 2
We had a secular ceremony but still had a “blessing” at the end, which really meant well wishes, I suppose. I didn’t have issues with the word, but I can understand why some may.
Perhaps you could call it “uniting of the hands” or something? That’s the best I can come up with!
Post # 3
dms0622: We did a handfasting and I think we called it “joining of the hands” or something like that.
Post # 4
Thank you both – this gives me some good ideas!
Post # 5
Is there some reason it needs a name?
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
dms0622: We did a ring warming ceremony 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center
JenGirl: I’m guessing the wedding program.
Post # 8
JenGirl: yes, it’s for the program, and also for a verbal introduction that our officiant might do.
FutureDrAtkins: I’ve never heard of a ring warming ceremony, what is that like? 🙂
Post # 9
We had a secular ceremony and had a secular ‘blessing’ at the conclusion. That’s actually what it was called when I found it on the internet. We didnt’ have programs so not such an issue there but I guess I just thought a blessing could equate to well wishes etc. as a PP said, not necessarily only religious sentiment.
Post # 10
- Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club
We plan on going a hand fasting ceremony and using that same reading.
Post # 11
dms0622: Gotcha. Personally, I’d probably just go with “blessing” because that isn’t a particularly religious word to me. But maybe “commitment” or “devotion” or “dedication”.
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
dms0622: The rings get passed through the bridal party so they can think happy thoughts and send good wishes to them. In my case, my rings were passed in a box containing a crystal that was broken in half and half was buried with my dad when he passed away.
Post # 13
JenGirl: Excellent suggestions, thank you. I really like “commitment.” We knew that blessings are not necessarily religious, we just didn’t feel that the phrase fit with our larger ceremony.
FutureDrAtkins: What a lovely idea and a sweet way to have your dad represented at your ceremony. My father passed away years ago and we are looking for a reading that we can have done at the ceremony in his memory.
Post # 14
My officiant is doing a “Final Blessing”, not sure if that’s what you’re looking for, but it goes like this :
April and Scott, I wish you the courage to keep your loving hearts open to each other for the rest of your lives, and to cherish the precious love you share. May you continue to find delight in each other and in your being together. May your love forever nourish you and keep you strong.