Post # 1
There seems to be no such thing as a non-religious wedding where I live. We are having an outdoor wedding at a cabin in the woods, and would like a funny, personable & romantic officiant. But, neither of us are religious and it’s just not us. The wedding coordinator is all over it; but cringed and is saying this is “not going to be easy.” They’re trying to get a county judge or something to do it now; I’m worried about how this could potentially go downhill. What are my “out of the box” options to have this wedding be legal but not turn religious?
Post # 3
We had our friend get ordained online through Universal Life Church and wrote our own ceremony. It was perfectly legal and worked well for us!
Post # 4
I second the online ordination. It can be really sweet and personal to have one of your friends perform the ceremony.
Post # 5
My brother is in an interfaith marraige and had a friend perform the ceremony. It was beautiful and personal!
Post # 6
You can do the online ordination, but look up what they need to do in order to be able to marry people. DH looked it up (he’s done the online ordaining, and our friends wanted him to marry them) and he needed to be a member for a year or two years and participate in some community groups or something like this. It was a bit strange and the timing wouldn’t have worked for their wedding unfortunately.
Post # 7
I’m not sure how far you are from a county seat, but you can always hire someone from the courthouse whether it’s a court administrator or someone from the treasurer’s office (depending on how they’re set up). We wanted nothing religious about our marriage and have hired someone from the courthouse to come do a ceremony at our location- she’s been awesome to work with so far and seems really dedicated to making our day special. good luck!
Post # 8
I would see if you can get a good friend or family member to marry you. We had my oldest son marry us and we also wrote our own vows. Everyone loved what we had put together. My son was also ordained through the Universal Life Church and it was is perfectly legal and acceptable by the courts.
Post # 9
I am also having a fried who got ordained online at Universal LIfe Church for free. It just takes like a minute to fill out the form.
Post # 10
Thanks everyone, very helpful.
We called the county clerk, and they said that is must be a preacher or reverand established in the community. And there are no judges or non-religious officiants in this county. They said there is not a way to register to give ceremonys if you do not lead a church! Which we find this hard to believe. We are contacting a lawyer friend to try and determine if this is actually correct, or if the local court house is just misinformed of the laws.
It’s hard to believe with the separation of church and state, they can force you to use a religious person. We are definitely still attempting to go the family/friend officiant way, and will keep you updated on our progress.