(Closed) non-religious traditions

posted 6 years ago in Secular
Post # 3
583 posts
Busy bee

Someone on here had a really cute beer mixing ceremony in lieu of the sand mixing ceremony.  They had  bottles of (the same, obviously) beer and poured their beer bottles into a chalice and then each drank from it.  This could go very well with your shared German/UK heritages.  You could even mix different beers as there are some good mixed beer drinks, like a black and tan, or a snakebite (usually a lambic with a dark beer I think).

There are all kinds of variations on the unity candle/sand mixing ceremony.

Oh also, wine box ceremonies are very cool.

Post # 5
98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’ve read about people doing a salt thing–I think they call it a salt covenant? Mixing two kinds of salt, or salt and pepper, much like a sand ceremony but more useful after the fact.

I jokingly told my mom that my partner and I were going to do a gin and tonic ceremony–now I’m thinking it’s not a bad idea. 🙂

Post # 6
2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Most of the “cultural” traditions aren’t secular – they’re just from pre-Christian religions in those cultures. 

But most of the modern unity ceremonies have no particular faith basis: candles, sand, etc. 

Post # 8
37 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

My fiance and I are doing a blood oath.


Yes, I’m serious.

Post # 9
39 posts

Alcohol has already been mentioned here, I know, but what I’ve read about (and might like to do myself) a cocktail ceremony. Cocktails are almost always made up of liquors that go together anyway, so with a little planning it’ll taste good and look great.

Post # 10
4659 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@furnituregirl:  Whoa that is really cool… but I’m not really sure what that consists of. Me and Fiance would soooo do something like that, can you tell me what exactly you’re going to do so I can shamelessly think about stealing your idea?

Post # 11
37 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

Steal away! It was cool. We got ahold of a couple of those lancets they use when you get a blood test (you know, the ones where they push down on a button of sorts and it cleanly pricks your finger). We know a couple of nurses who “picked them up” for us, otherwise I have no advice on how to gather them lol. You could also use a small sterilized needle. Anyway the best man kept them in his pocket and produced them at the appropriate time… here is how the ceremony went verbally:

Traditionally, couples wear wedding bands, showing the world that they each belong to the other. But the commitment of marriage is internal, a relationship that will belong solely to [groom] and [bride]. For this reason, they have chosen to add a ceremony that honors this impalpable bond.

[Groom] and [Bride], please prick each other’s fingers.

[they prick and touch fingers]

         Now repeat after me in unison:

         As long as blood flows in my veins, I will carry you with me, and keep you in my heart.


Our fingers didn’t happen to bleed very much, but it might be a good idea to have a cotton ball or small band-aid on hand 😉 everyone loved it!!

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