- 3 years ago
Just looking for some advice. We informed all of our groomsmen back in April about what suit they will need to rent, where to get it and how much it will cost. We even spread out the value of FI’s “free” suit (because we are doing 5 rentals) to help lower the total cost. With all discounts, it will come to $110 with tax for the suit, shirt, vest, tie, socks and shoes. I thought that was pretty reasonable for a Ralph Lauren suit to rent (compared with other wedding rentals we are familiar with).
Well, out of 4 groomsmen, all have put their $40 deposit down except 1…we will call him John. He was actually there the day we originally selected the suit and could have paid the deposit then, but he said he didn’t have the money at the time.
Ok, that was fine, he still had a few months at that point. Well, we have been sending gentle reminders about once a month to inform everyone to get their suits deposits in soon. Everyone did it and informed us, except John, who will not even respond to the texts.
Now, John is getting married in the next few weeks and I realize he is busy, but he could at least text back. Especially because John keeps texting my FI to inform him of his “wedding duties” since my FI is in his wedding as well. So my FI has done everything he needs to do for John’s wedding, but John hasn’t done anything he needs to do for our wedding!
He has to get his deposit in at least 3 weeks before our wedding and the clock is ticking (we are 37 days away). So yes, he has about two weeks until the deadline, but since he is getting married next weekend and leaving for a 1 week honeymoon, he really only has about 1 week to do it.
I understand that John and his fiance are under financial pressure because they have a child and are paying for their wedding, but he could at least tell us that he will have trouble paying it. We told everyone at the beginning that we could afford to help pay up to half of the suit rental, which I feel is pretty generous (especially because we paid in full for FI’s things for John’s wedding).
So now, we are trying to figure what we will do if John doesn’t get his act together soon.
Our options are:
- Track John down and figure out if he is having trouble affording it–offer to pay half
- Figure out John’s measurements and just pay for the whole thing (to make sure it gets ordered)
- Ask John to step down from the wedding party (mind you not ideal, but he is being so nonresponsive right now, it’s frustrating)
What would you bees do? 🙁