Non-responsive groomsmen…what to do?

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: What should we do?
    Track John down and figure out if he is having trouble affording it--offer to pay half : (7 votes)
    58 %
    Figure out John's measurements and just pay for the whole thing (to make sure it gets ordered) Read : (2 votes)
    17 %
    Ask John to step down from the wedding party : (3 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
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    3889 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Have your fi call John and ask nicely for John’s measurements. Offer to make the booking for him and let John pay you back (agree on a deadline though). Remind John that you (or your fi actually) will be taking some work off of John’s plate as a favor.  No matter what the excuses were in the past, if John is getting married next weekend, there’s no way his attention is on your wedding. Be nice but be proactive and you’ll avoid hurt feelings.

    Post # 6
    Member
    42469 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @bmo88:  I would email John (to have it in writing): that we are aware that he is very busy with his own wedding, that we  were willing to pay 1/2 the cost of the rental, BUT that if he didn’ t meet the deadline we would assume he had chosen to stand down as a groomsman.  I would ask him to let us know when he had paid the deposit and the remainder of his half of the rental cost so that we could pay our half.

    Post # 8
    Member
    42469 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @bmo88:  I think it is important that he pay his half before you do, otherwise he may never pay and either drop out of the wedding or by default you would have to pay the whole tab.

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