(Closed) Non-supportive family and other dramas. Am i being too sensitive?

posted 5 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should we still have a family involved wedding or just elope?
    Invite family : (9 votes)
    53 %
    Invite only those that are haooy for you and not rain on your parade : (7 votes)
    41 %
    Elope : (1 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    1135 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    It sounds like they haven’t actually said anything rude or unsupportive, right?  If so, maybe they just aren’t wedding people?  While my family could talk about my wedding all day, my FILs are happy for us but really just have no to little input, thoughts or opinions on the actual plans. I’d try to discuss plans in small groups (say just you and your mom), ask specific questions or for certain opinions and give specific instructions/requests to help with things. That seems to work best with my FMIL, though I’m sure the other FILs will never have any interest in our wedding planning details which is fine by me as long they are excited for us in their own way and come!  Think of it as the less outside opinions to deal with, the better!

    Post # 4
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    3589 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    @Luckyinlove:  There have been posts just like your recently where one family was very excited about wedding plans and the other–nope.

    People on a web site can;t tell you why your mother acts the way she does about your wedding. I suspect you’ve got a whole lot more insight into this situation than you are sharing with us.

    But whatever the underlying causes of your mom showing disinterest in your wedding, other people will not experience things in the same way you do. Your expectation for her may not be realistic. 

    Enjoy your wedding palnning if that’s how you want to spend your time, let your mom and others help, or not help, as they are inclined. It never going to be as important to others as it is to you.

    Post # 6
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    4660 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Luckyinlove:  Yeah, I think my FI’s family is more supportive/excited than mine… I’m inviting just a small number from my family actually.

    Post # 7
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    3141 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Have you asked your family why they react the way they do? if they have financial issues where they can’t contribute maybe that is the underlying issue if you let them know you have no expectations maybe their reactions will change ?

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