Post # 1
Long time lurker, first time poster…
What is your impression of non-traditional looking engagement rings made by artisans and small designers?
I live in a major city and travel in fairly artsy-but-affluent circles. My fiance, most our friends, and I all work in the creative industries (advertising, entertainment, design, etc.). Most the ladies who are engaged or married have antique or non-traditional rings. I know that some of them are very expensive (beyond my price range!) but definitely don’t look like the 2ct-cushion-in-micropave-halo status ring. My personal style is very artsy/vintage as well, and I think an unusual ring would be awesome!
Although it’s soo not an issue, I am a little bit worried about our families, both of which are a lot more conservative and into traditional AND traditional markers of commitment than my fiance or I. Part of me doesn’t want to half to explain that yes, this is my “real” engagement ring or subject my fiance to judgement from my family for not giving me a more “normal,” obviously expensive ring.
I know I should (and will) just get whatever make my fiance and I happy, so right now I don’t really need a lot of encourage, I just want (brutal?) honesty about what you think when you see these kinds of rings. Does anyone you know have them? Any stories? What are some factors that go into your impression?
Here are some examples of what I’m thiking about:
NOTE: I’m not asking really for a lot of feedback on these *specific* rings. They’re just random ones I like from my pinterest. It’s more this genre of rings. I tried to pick a variety…
Post # 3
UGHH! Sorry these are so big!! I spent a long time figuring how to make them smaller. Unsuccessfully, I guess! 🙁
Post # 4
@flotilla: I love the one second from the bottom, with the blue trap sides! I think if it fits your personality and lifestyle, go for it! I have a friend whose husband is an architect.. She got a tiny diamond tension set in stainless steel, and his band is concrete! So unique, and fits them perfectly!
Post # 5
@jessicadarling: Thanks! I love that one, too! It’s from Bario Neal. If I did something like it, I’d probably go for a sapphire center, so I’m not sure what I’d do for the side.
Another question: What do you think determines if an non-traditional ring will be timeless or trendy in years to come?
Post # 6
Eeergh, I’ve actually been married for years, but am looking at rings to help a friend pick now. She’s pretty non-traditional too, and Mociun and Megan Thorne are some of my favorites for her… I love them all. Kate Szabone on etsy has some other colored diamond clusters I’ve been drooling over.
In my oinion, if it’s something you adore that fits your lifestyle, it will be timeless. I have a platinum and diamond Tacori ring that is beautiful, but honestly, I wear my band most of the time because I like the simplicity. Make sure you pick something durable, which is a big plus for diamonds, moissy, sapphires etc., and make sure it mixes well with your wardrobe. If you always wear really bright colors, maybe a more neutral ring. If you always wear loose knits, something that doesn’t stick out too far or have giant prongs. Another reason I stoped wearing my engagement ing is because my toddler likes biting it and I was worried about the pave, so remember that you want it to stay lovely noo matter what it goes through. But a lot of people are more careful then me, so who knows.
I think the key is knowing yourself and your life. As far as what other people think, I would just let your joy shine through and say something like “Isn’t it beautiful, I was so excited to help pick it out! We found exactly what I wanted”. I’m always imressed when a woman has something unique- it makes me think she’s probably someone I want to get to know :).
Post # 7
@flotilla: get whatever you love. As long as you are confident in your choice – rock iT! What others think should have no bearing on how you feel about it. I have an artisan ring – although somewhat traditional in nature. I know that many people wrinkle their noses at the style, but I LOVE it….and those nearest and dearest to me support my decision and agree its “so me”. :).
Good luck! I love the star sapphire? On the bottom of your post.
(My ring above for reference.)
Post # 8
@flotilla: I have this type of ring. I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but I get lots of compliments all the same. Mine is a gemstone and my fiance’s mom offered to get me a diamond for about a year, but she also said she liked the ring. She just didn’t believe any woman wouldn’t REALLY prefer a diamond.
Post # 9
I love a unique or ‘different’ engagement ring. I think it should be an expression of yourself. And, although solitaires and halos are lovely in their own right, of course, each is much the same as the next solitaire or halo.
Wear what you want to wear. What is popular this decade is unlikely to be popular in the next or the previous decade. So you should wear something that you truly love, regardless of what is fashionable right now.
I did that with my ring. It is hand made, art deco, a replica of a bombe ring. Lots of pave, with a 2ct+ sapphire as the centre stone. It isn’t fashionable in this decade. Some people have sort of looked at it and said nothing. Others love it. Others question why I didn’t want a sapphire. It is very ‘me’ – old fashioned, but a little bit ‘different’.
Post # 10
Mine is definitely non-traditional. I have been wearing it for 15 years, and I still love it as much as the day my husband bought it. However, you need to be prepared to stand strong in your conviction. As long as you believe it’s the right choice, other people’s opinions won’t get you down.
Post # 11
@hollandaisey: Thanks for input! Yeah, as you can see from pics, I love Megan Thorne and Mociun. I’ll check out Kate Szabone, too. I will definitely go for something low, smooth, and durable.
@Lovewinz: The star(ish?) sapphire is James Meyer. He has some BEAUTIFUL things, as does his son, Caleb Meyer. Some of it actually reminds me of your set, actually, which I LOVE. I think it’s beautiful, and definitely timeless. It looks like it could have come from an acheological dig or the distance future. Perfect.
@Feist: Would love to see a pic! 🙂 Ughh I don’t know if I could bite my tongue if my FMIL said that to me. I guess I would just politely thank her and let her know that I actually prefer a colored gem.. but ugh!
@BrightSide: WOW! Would love to see a pic. I don’t get how anyone could look at a 2ct sapphire with anything but awe… I know what you mean about fashions changing and being unpredictable, but I think certain things are always beautiful, even if they go in and out of fashion. For example, there is a lot of mod 1960s fashion that I think will always look “cool” even if it looks “of a time” but there is a fashion fom that same era that simple doesn’t hold up over time. I wish I knew in advance what would have longevity and what wouldn’t.
@ddhb2007: I know youre right… would love to see a pic!
Post # 12
I am very artsy (a writer) and my SO is very Old South traditional. We compromised with a beautiful Etsy find: solitaire in white gold, but handmade with beautiful antique-looking scrollwork on the band for me. I like a look that is clearly “engagement” but not gaudy or cookie-cutter. I love my future ring! Can’t wait for the proposal!
Post # 13
With no disrepect, although your family may be conservative.. At the end of the day it’s what you and your partner like. If artsy/vintage is what you’re after then go for it 🙂 So are so many beautiful non-traditional rings out there to choose from!! I think you should ask yourself whether you would truly love having a simpe soltaire on your finger and weigh it up with something that’s a little different, maybe something that’s more you. Good luck!
Post # 14
I really wanted a Diamond in the Rough ring (specifically the second one in from left) but FI was worried I wouldn’t love it down the line. Its been years and I still lust after one. I think they’re a great mix between traditional and not so traditional.
Post # 15
@flotilla: I LOVE cool artisan type settings. For the stones, I sheepishly admit to raising my eyebrows a little bit if it’s not a clear stone or a sapphire… Possibly just because those are just my preferred stones.
That said, my opinion mostly depends on the wearer of the ring. If the lady wearing it seems to love it, then I love it too. I think if you find something that you love SO MUCH, it won’t matter if it eventually looks dated because it’s your taste.
I chose a halo, antique style with swirls around the diamonds on the band. I didn’t realize when I picked it that halos were all the rage, and a bunch of other girls my age have them… But I didn’t care when I found out. I wanted that one! I don’t care if it looks dated one day. How could it? It’s sooo pretty and pretty things are always in style.
The other thing I think when I see a unique setting is that the wearer must be a jewellery lover like me!
Post # 16
@Lovewinz: Your ring was the first thing I thought of when I clicked this thread. It’s one of my favorites on the Bee.
OP, get the kind of ring you like. Don’t worry too much about what other people will think.