- 3 years ago
I’m hosting a bachelorette party at the end of the summer for a dear friend, and I wanted to bring some suggestions to her first, but I’m at a bit of a loss.
She isn’t a ‘girly-girl’ – doesn’t do spas or dancing or shoes or makeup or perfume or shopping or even body lotion. She doesn’t drink – she isn’t completely opposed to alcohol, but she doesn’t enjoy it and anything themed around the bar scene or wine tours isn’t for her. She doesn’t do outdoorsy things or sports – so no yoga or rockclimbing. She and her fiance also really aren’t into the ‘last night of freedom’ concept, so anything that we’d do should obviously be special but not magically ‘forbidden’ after marriage. She also isn’t religious at all, so nothing prayer related. I’ve done the ‘panty party’ idea with other women and it’s worked well, but this Bride-to-be isn’t comfortable giving out her underwear size.
We also have a group of women (and maybe some men, depending on what she decides) with varied financial and family situations (ie. some students, some new moms with young kids), so a weekend away or anything particularly costly is out.
She likes food (but she doesn’t cook), TV, boardgames, and video/computer games. She is also quite comfortable with sexuality, so something like a Passion Party or burlesque event might be well received. When I think of things that she’d want, comfortable and not exhausting come to mind too.
So the suggestions I have so far:
-Passion Party (I’ve been to one for a bachelorette and I did have fun, although I worry about people feeling pressure to buy things? Are these good ideas?)
-Pole Dancing Lessons (I know this falls under the vague ‘sports’ heading, but my friends organized this in secret for my bachelorette and we all – including the current Bride-to-be – really enjoyed it as an awkward ice breaker so I’ll suggest it to her).
-Painting/Other Art Class (this one might be iffy, as she used to be a visual artist herself and many of the guests will be her friends from art school. I’ll suggest it, but I don’t know if it would be fun for fine artists to go and paint ugly mugs or exceptionally boring).
I’m a big fan of museums and theater/live music, so I’ll suggest that too, but she has never expressed a particularly strong interest in either. I’m happy to suggest staying in with boardgames and fondue and TV, but I’m not sure how to accomodate a dozen+ people with boardgames without the group feeling fractured. The staying-in/”slumber party” idea might be the best, but I’ll still like at least one activity before and then ideas for entertainment once we ‘stay-in’.
Any ideas I can bring to her? Anything you thought you wouldn’t like at a bachelorette but ended up enjoying?