Post # 1
FI has 2 brothers who he’s very close to, so they are both his best men. He has one group of friends where he has to have all of them and it’s too many, so he’s opting for none.
I’m having my sister as MOH and 3 good friends as bridesmaids. I am not having his sister or 3 sisters-in-law. I feel a little guilty about that but my mom/his mom don’t think it’s a problem. FI is not having my brother or 2 brother in laws.
Here’s the question: is it weird to have his sister on his side with the groomsmen?
Post # 3
No, I don’t think it’s weird, but if she is going to be on your FI side…..why can’t she be on your side?
Post # 4
@Ashley1281: Because that would be 5 on my side, 2 on his side, 3 if he had my brother. She has 3 kids and doesn’t really seem interested in being in the wedding, which is fine with me. His mom made a comment to me that sister “wouldn’t want to buy the dress”.
I thought if she was on his side, she could wear whatever she wanted…
Post # 5
Absolutely okay!! My brother was my best man, I had 4 people (3 bridesmaids and my brother) and my husband had 3 people. Having uneven sides didn’t look weird at all and it was great having my brother on my side!
Post # 6
Oh, okay…..I don’t think it’s weird….
Post # 7
I think it would be fine. But if she doesn’t care about being in the entourage, per se, if it’s important to you both to incorporate her in the wedding what if you gave her a role of a special reading? Or a speech? She is, after all, FI’s sister and knows him well – she could come up with a few words at the reception.
Post # 8
@madger: Yeah! My brother is my best friend and my man of honour! Besides, photographers are pretty seasoned. They know how to “‘place” people so that it’s not terribly “asymmetric” in the snaps.
Post # 9
Yes of course it’s okay. It’s your wedding and people who are important to you should stand up with you. WE are having a very non traditional wedding and I have my best friend who is a guy standing up and being my best man. My FI has her best friend who is a woman standing up to be her best mate. Then we have two bridesmaids and one person on her side is a woman wearing a tux and then my son standing up. We will have to be creative with the way it works when they stand up but its the people that matter isn’t it? Not tuxes vs dresses, men vs women
Post # 10
Since your brother is not in the bridal party either, I think you’re setting a bit of an odd precedent including his sister, on either side; because then your brother is left out. Also if she’s on his side she will need to match in some way.
I always think doing a reading is a good job for groom’s sister (or bride’s brother for that matter). It’s not tedious, they get a bit of the spotlight, and they can wear what they want.
Post # 11
Definitely okay! I am having my guy best friend be my “Bridesman.” It makes total sense to have the person stand on the side they are closest to. Go for it!