Post # 1
I’m new here and am looking for some opinions! My boyfriend and I are close to getting engaged and I have gone back and forth about what I want for a ring. I think I’ve concluded that I’d like a sapphire for the main stone, instead of a diamond. I really love sapphires and also it’s my boyfriend’s birth stone (as well as the month we’ll likely be married in) so it would have special meaning. I also like the idea of something a little different and not totally traditional. And, the decision isn’t totally financial, but I do like that he’ll probably be able to get something that I love for a bit less money.
There’s only a small part of me that wonders if at some point I’ll regret not having gone with the traditional diamond. Has anyone had that experience and can you make recommendations one way or another? I appreciate any feedback! Thanks!
Also please feel free to show off those sapphire rings! Love to see them! 🙂
Post # 3
@RunnerGirl15: I think sapphires are actually more traditional than diamonds. I don’t think you can go wrong with a sapphire or a diamond.
I mean look at Kate Middleton’s ring… if she can rock it as an engagement ring, I am pretty sure that you can.
Post # 4
I have a pink amethyst ring. No regrets from me!
Post # 5
I have a ruby and 20 years later I still love it! And sapphire’s beautiful too. I love seeing other women with coloured engagement rings!
Post # 6
sorry for the huge picture, here is my peach champagne sapphire. I love it!! its one of a kind and made special just for me. I never regret it for a second and every time I look at it I realize how special and prefect it is.
Post # 7
Here is some interesting reading on sapphires.
Did you know according to the bible Moses was given the 10 commandments on sapphire tablets?
I love my sapphire, I’d never change it.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
I have a purple sapphire in a non traditional setting that I love to death. I’ve been wearing her almost 5 months now not a single regret. I couldnt be happier that we went with what I wanted over what is currently popular :).
If your considering sapphires look at Krikawa and check out the designer cut stones. They have more instock than on the page. The celestial compass by Larry Woods has almost as much fire as a diamond! I love mine!
Post # 9
Thank you all for your feedback! I guess I was just looking for some reassurance, which is what you’ve provided. 🙂
@throughthebarricades – I agree about Kate’s ring! If it’s good enough for a princess… 🙂
Post # 10
@RunnerGirl15: Go for the sapphire! They are timeless. Fiance always tells me that ‘princesses get sapphires’. 🙂
Post # 11
@HelleCat: Thank you! Very interesting to read about the history and meaning behind them.
I’m actually surprised that they aren’t more popular than they are for engagement rings. I think diamonds are very beautiful as well and of course traditional, but I’m surprised so many people want the same standard engagement rings. I swear these days every person I know gets engaged with a diamond with a pave band and halo setting. Pretty, but a little typical for my taste!
Post # 12
I started out not wanting a diamond ring (I actually started out not even wanting to get married so much has evolved since then!). We purchased a cushion cut smoky quartz ring, which I loved! It had that gorgeous brown sparkle. After a year, the stone got all scratched up (not a very hard stone it turns out) There were also issues with the setting, which was too delicate for the large stone. So I changed my mind and wanted a mor subtantial setting (larger shank, safer prongs) and thought diamonds would be great because they are the hardest stone. Another issue with the quartz is that it gets cloudy quite quickly as dirt really sticks to it. I slowly came to love the beautiful white sparkle from diamonds and ended up getting an amazing ring. No diamond is too large in the setting and they make an intricate flower design. I’m in love with it 🙂 I would say it is a non-traditional diamond ring.
Sapphires are quite hard though, so they can withstand being worn everyday.
My ring 🙂
Post # 13
no regrets having my peridot, it’s my other half birthstone, I myself have a 2.25 diamond VVS 1 solitaire ring, and I preffer the peridot as an engagement ring that he gave to me as RHR, I’m more on meaningful not tradition, go get what you want you’re the one who’s gonna wear it screw the people who will comment it is non traditional I also have Sapphire too I got on my birthday 2yrs ago, and they’re amazing for everyday use.
Post # 14
@RunnerGirl15: this is my exact situation 🙁 !!! I so badly want a cushion cut halo with a very pale lavender sapphire but i feel like maybe i want what i orignally loved, just a plain rund diamond ya know?
Post # 15
I thought I would always want a traditional diamond solitaire or 3 stone… My Fiance and I decided to pick out our own rings, for our own reasons, and I have been very picky, indecisive, and frustrated about it all – but have finally found my perfect ring, a 1.5ct pear cut london blue topaz. If you want a non-traditional ring, go for it! I wanted my ring to be special to me and always remind me about the love and amazing relationship that my Fiance and I have, not just a piece of jewelry to show off. They just never seemed to feel right and I was always bummed about my ring(s) until I went with my heart and picked the ring that I truly wanted, not just the status quo. The funny thing is that we have done the same with the wedding – started with the standard and slowly found our way to what we really wanted, a small private beach ceremony. Go figure. 🙂
Post # 16
I understand where you’re coming from. I never once considered a non-diamond until I joined these boards. Admittedly, I never really knew how much a diamond ring cost until I joined these boards, too. I’m pretty traditional and when my SO and I started discussing getting engaged, I went to a jewelry store (alone) just to try things on and see what I liked. I knew from WB what I liked on OTHER people, but I’d never looked at an actual diamond ring on my finger. The salesman started with the blingiest ring they had, which was probably the biggest mistake he could have made. I felt uncomfortable with it on my finger. I’m a very low maintenance person and don’t enjoy attracting a lot of attention in my direction, so it was the wrong avenue to take. Now I know, I thought. I tried on more modest rings and felt much more comfortable, but still couldn’t believe the sticker price.
I don’t believe in the 3 month salary standard. I’d never want to know there was 3 months of hard work just sitting on my finger. That’s when I started looking at alternatives. I am attached to the idea of having a “natural” stone, so morganite and moissanite didn’t really appeal to me. A sapphire seemed perfect: my SO and I were both born in September and it has so much symbolism. A white sapphire was all I could think about, but most of my friends told me just to keep my mouth shut because giving him that much direction would take “the fun” out of ring shopping for him. I listened and kept my mouth closed. I wanted him to enjoy picking out a ring without feeling like he had strict criteria. I also wondered if in say 10 years, I would be disappointed that my one big chance to really be spoiled with a ring was lost on practicality.
I’m 26 years old and have one pair of small diamond studs that I never wear. That’s when I realized: maybe I’m really just not a diamond girl. I always thought I would be because that’s what the wedding industry tells you to be. I consulted some bees about how to talk to my SO about a white sapphire and eventaully pleaded my case.
I’m still a waiting bee, so whether I wind up with a white sapphire or a diamond or any other stone is yet to be known. But I think if in your heart you are moved by a sapphire/gemstone ring, you should trust your gut!