Post # 1
I just was wondering….
I am getting a lot of comments and snide remarks about doing things a little differently and wanted to see what you ladies doing in this regard, along with some of the things that are being said. Also, why AREN’T you going the traditional route?
Personally, my family is conservative and traditional. I’m not playing “here comes the bride” when I walk down the aisle, but “Marry Me” by Train. There is no “beef or chicken” menu. We are having McAllisters cater because its our personal favorites, along with our entire bridal party. We want it to be super relxed and everyone to have fun. This is partially because we are young (will be 20/23 when we get married) and feel it would slightly awkward to put on this big, formal wedding. All the wedding party, including myself, are wearing Chuck Taylors. (You can’t see mine or the Bridal party’s due to long dresses.) We also aren’t like most couples. Our favorite past times include co-ed softball, playing COD, watching gory action flicks, etc. (Not a girly girl if you didn’t notice… Do LOVE my dress though, and it’s girly. Shocking.) We are very mature for our age however, but still can be goofy. This is also due to the fact we were best friends for four years prior to dating. So having the traditional wedding would be just out of character and out of place.
It just boils down to we want to have a great time and lots of fun at our wedding. Plus in the end, its about the marriage, not the wedding. The wedding is one day, but the marriage lasts a lifetime. We want fantastic memories of this day with our families, and everyone attending to have a blast since we are just fun people. Or I’d like to think so lol. I want to hear your ideas, ladies!
P.S. I have no idea why this is in destination weddings… How do I edit that little tidbit?
Post # 3
Plus in the end, its about the marriage, not the wedding.
Exactly why we chose to elope! I wanted a wedding just the two of us because that’s how our lives are going to be! Just the two of us working on the marriage together!
Not to mention…I hate picking all of the “stuff”, didn’t want to do most of the traditional wedding things and family dramz.
I LOVE reading about people making their wedding their own! And hello McAllisters is the shiz.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2011 - Sweet ceremony by the sea and sunset celebration on the North Shore of Hawaii
Amen, sister. 🙂
We had a non traditional destination wedding and it was highly personal, full of love and so much fun. We thought of it as the ultimate celebration of our love and new life together….and we wanted to create our own traditions,
So excited for you and can’t wait to hear more!
Post # 5
My family had a hard time with me breaking a lot of the traditional routes. When my mom asked me why I just didn’t do what everyone else does, my response was “when have I have done with everyone else does in my life?” She didn’t say much after that.
Check out offbeatbride.com. Its an amazing site for support of your non-traditional routes. I belong to the tribe there and have had an amazing experience. I love weddingbee as well though (obviously, I’m here too).
Post # 6
we are having a non-traditional wedding as well… everyone has been pretty good about it, noone in either of our families are very traditional(except his grandma). we are having a small wedding of about 100 close family and friends, we are having a blues band play, no cake, no head table, no other silly stuff that means nothing to us. I can’t wait… it’s gonna be more like a family reunion. The ceremony itself will be a short as possible, and we are gonna try to limit speeches as much as possible.
My mom had a bit of a hard time with it in the beginning not because she’s so traditional… she just wasnt aware of all the other options that brides and grooms can use and that it doesn’t have to be “by the book”. now she’s great and has so many ideas for me that aren’t traditional, i love it.
Post # 7
We are going VERY non traditional and we havent had much backlash yet from it… only a few upset family members who cant make our DW. Even my Grandma who is 70 is excited for what we have in mind which was surprising.
youre right.. nots not about the wedding, its all about the marriage.
If you want to wear Chucks… then wear Chucks! Have the wedding youve always dreamed of… you and you FI deserve it and you have to live with it…
Post # 8
Its funny because I always thought I would be a traditional bride but now that I am planning I am NOT! 🙂 We are thinking of going to Tenn with some close friends and family, seeing eachother before the wedding (first look photos), no tosses! FI’s mother doesn’t see it the same way as us. But its what we want to do and I really don’t want to look back and my wedding day and remember it as not being what I wanted.
Post # 9
And I would also like to walk down the aisle to Marry Me 🙂