- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
FI and I just got engaged and are shooting for an Oct 2013 wedding. We are planning on doing a small courthouse ceremony for family and then a lunch with more extended family, and then a 100pp cocktail/hors d’oeuvres 5-6 hour party in which we will likely have a friend do a quick little 5 min ceremony for people to watch.
Basically, we want it to be a giant party that we can actually enjoy instead of working the whole time. I’m extremely happy that my FI and I are both on the same page about this because I feel very strongly about it.
Now, this leaves us wondering what, if any, additional wedding parties we should have. We are not having a bridal party or groomsmen, but I do think he wants to have a bachelor party in vegas or something which I’m totally fine with. I might just do a little brunch or something with some of my female friends, but I don’t need a crazy weekend of binge-drinking.
What is an engagement party? We do have a larrrrrge extended friend circle who will not be able to be invited to the wedding, but we only see some of them a few times a year and would love to be able to celebrate with them as well- is this what an engagement party is for? Is it poor taste to invite people to an engagement party if we know they won’t be invited to the wedding?
What about a bridal shower? I kind of don’t even know what the purpose of a bridal shower is- do people bring more gifts?
I have only been to 3-4 weddings in my life and have never been in a formal bridal party (so not my thing) so all of this seems slightly overwhelming to me. I don’t want to downplay the entire experience for fear that I might regret missing “my moment” later, but I honestly don’t know if FI and I even have time to plan all of this stuff.