Post # 1
Hi all, since getting on the bee, i have been having some ring envy with all the gorgeous huge carats on display here. I have a 0.5 carat and have been suffering from some shrinkage issues since i got here 😀
that said, i am not from the USA but from the UK. Over here, i think the average is about a .5 carat? So while i am having ring envy on the bee, when i go out and walk around, i am reminded of the reality that perhaps these huge size rings are just more common in the USA.
Thus, would like to hear from bees all over the world… what is the average size engagement ring where you come from?
US bees, feel free to join in the conversation!
Post # 2
Commenting to follow as I am a Uk waiting bee and always wondered that. Maybe you could add a poll?
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK
Uk bee here too! Most people I know have something between .25ct and .50ct, or the carat weight is higher but it’s a cluster ring. I think if you go further into London or other big cities you will see larger rings.
Post # 4
I’m from the UK too. Mine is .70ct and most of my close friends’ rings are actually larger…and I live in the countryside in the North but I agree that most of the people I know – colleagues and family – have .50ct or less and they’re all stunning.
Post # 5
I’m from the UK. I have a 0.51 G VS1 excellent cut hearts and arrows diamond bought online from Whiteflash in Houston and set at Mappin & Webb in Glasgow.
Here in Scotland, as in the rest of the UK, diamonds are small and taxes (compared to the US) are high. I travel a lot throughout the UK by train and plane, and most diamonds that I see are quite a bit smaller than mine. A carat size of 0.33 or 0.25 is much more likely than anything bigger.
Of my friends and acquaintances I have the largest stone in all but two cases. One woman has a husband who owns a jewellers and her stone I would guess is about 1 carat. The other is the richest woman in the town where I live and I reckon her stone is about 3 carats.
I also travel to France where 0.5 carat is the biggest I see. Outside Paris, this seems to be true even in Cartiers. In France it is quality that is important and this means great cut and an emphasis on colour and clarity. The design of the rings tends to err on the side of subtlety and chic. Not everyone wears an engagement ring by any means and some only have a plain band.
Post # 6
I didn’t want an engagement ring but of my friends they all seem to have around the .5 to .6ish size. We are all upper/middle class. Huge rings here are not seen that often and big ones would be considered a bit ‘flashy’ I think. I’m on a city in Australia (not Sydney though where I’m sure you see more larger stones)
Post # 7
I think 0.5 is a very good size stone in the UK. Lots of people have much smaller stones since diamonds are so expensive. In London I sometimes see much bigger rings, but in general I think 0.5 is a good size. I work in an industry where the people at the top are very wealthy, and some of the women have massive rocks and some have rocks around a half carat, and I have to say I much prefer the smaller sets as they seem more elegant to me!
My 3 stone ring is 0.75cts with a 0.45ct centre stone. I’ve had a few people comment on my “big” rock.
I saw your other thread last night – to me it sounds like your fiancé bought you a gorgeous quality diamond and I think you will be glad of that if you wear it for a while. mine isn’t such high quality as yours and I wish I’d chipped in to get VS stones now. Maybe you could set the stone in something more fancy if a solitaire really isn’t your style? But I wouldn’t upset him by asking him to go bigger because honestly I think you already have a lovely size for the UK.
Post # 8
Chicpeas: Fun thread! Having moved to the UK from the States to marry my English fiancée, I’m now a UK bee. I have a total 10.5 carat engagement ring. The center is a 4.5 carat IF asscher with sapphires making up the rest of the weight on both sides. In my circle in west and northwest London it’s bigger than…but not too outrageous. However, I do get comments on it a lot and I get a LOT of double takes on the tube. And when I went to a party where I was sat across from a jewler, he basically held onto my hand all night.
A friend from Germany visited recently and suggested I get a hand crutch for it. Her comments reinforces my suspicion that I’m kind of an outlier but I also think there’s more variety around the average sizes in each country so nothing looks too outrageous now (IMHO). I’ll be curious to read the response of the bees around the world.
Post # 9
badatusernames: surely a picture if this list-worthy ring…please?
just to add to my comments about mine and the rings of my close friends being larger: we all got engaged in our thirties when careers/homes and finances were established and stable. I got my ring from a diamond merchant which was much more affordable than high street so my centre stone is VVS1, D colour…something that we definitely couldn’t afford retail! And, honestly, there’s nothing flashy about the 1carat and over rings of my friends because they went for simple, elegant settings. Don’t want y’all pegging me as a wannabe wag. Absolutely not!
Post # 10
I cant comment on country… Australia is a big diverse place but I’m from Sydney. My centre is a really good quality, .75ct and mine feels small in comparison to most friends as well as ones I notice on strangers.
Post # 11
- Wedding: A very pretty church.
I think you only notice the ones that make you feel insecure when you’re a) already insecure or in your case b) “still looking/shopping” by immersing yourself in ring threads. Please remember people who feel they have something to show off are more likely to post loads of photos everywhere 😛 the threads on WB are not a reliable sample.
I live in Oz but spend a lot of time in the UK, both have every size and er, every quality if you look hard enough. I suspect anything approaching decent quality, in either country (though from experience, even more so in Oz) represents a significantly greater expense than in the USA, so where big diamonds exist they are either not great quality, were ruinously expensive or in the case of an unsavvy buyer…both. So I would give it a good clean and look at it in the mirror (so it is less ‘familiar’) and just enjoy it.
Funny experience – going into shop/bridal display place in Tokyo and having them tell me how big my diamond was >.> it’s definitely not large in Oz, but it’s all relative!
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK
Just another thing I thought of, I ordered a 1ct moissanite ring because I got so obsessed with size from looking at other rings on the bee, and when it arrived I really didn’t like it! The stone was gorgeous and I would definitely have another moissanite, but the size made me feel like I was wearing costume jewellery. On other people they looked amazing, but it took a few trips to the jewellers to realise dainty suited me better. And just sometimes, your man really does know you better than you think 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: December 2014 - Maui
I live in Japan and the average engagement ring size is “tiny” by western standards. I’d say it’s around 0.2-0.3 carats. I think anything over 0.5 would be considered large. Many women don’t even get engagement rings (I didn’t) because that custom hasn’t really taken root. The women who do get one generally don’t even wear it after they are married, so I rarely see diamonds of any size on hands here. The vice principle of the school I work at is the only Japanese woman I’ve ever seen wearing both of her rings on a daily basis.
Even though the diamond is small, the rings are still expensive. The ones I’ve seen in the shop are still around $4000-$5000 for a small diamond. They are probably very high quality, though.
Post # 14
- Wedding: A very pretty church.
koiocha: I should clarify I have a halo around a < .3 centre, so all together the thing was (likely) considered large. The engagement rings I saw in Japan (very incidental browsing) were off the chain stunning though. Size only matters after the other considerations! Quality > quantity. I was a bit envious, even though they were teeny.
Post # 15
Australia. My centre stone is .92 and is in a halo setting. Honestly, I was all worried it was too small after the bee, then looked around and got worried it was too big! LOL. I showed a friend at work the day after we got engaged and she said ‘I’m suprised I didn’t see that thing as soon as you came in!’. FI got it from BN, as PPs have said, diamonds are very expensive here. So that may account for it. It’s a bit embarrassing actually, and I kind of wish I’d had a chance to tell him to go smaller (and that’s not a humble brag, it’s bloody true). :S