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    Bennie      

    Argh, so frustrated.

    So... i organized an annual group trip to an NFL game. As is usual, i buy the tickets up front (since i get a slight discount as a season-ticket holder) and everyone pays me on game day. 

    A week and a half before the game, my one friend, "Lynn", and her spouse tell me they can't make the game. They do not offer to pay for the tickets or find replacements. I figured I would be able to find other friends so i didn't ask. I found two friends who could come, but then 5 days before the game ANOTHER friend, "Nicole", and her boyfriend also bail. Nicole tries to find replacements to no avail. My mom ended up coming along. One ticket was not used.

    After the game, I asked Lynn and Nicole to split the cost of the last ticket, as they were the ones who bailed and did not find replacements. Nicole said no problem. Lynn email-transfered the money, but did so with a one-line email and is now not talking to me.

    She is clearly angry for some reason. I was not expected to eat the cost of the un-used ticket was i? They were the ones who said they would come! Am i in the wrong here? 

    ps. I was MOH in Lynn's wedding this past summer and she just got back from her honeymoon last week.. she has not called to tell me about it, even though i texted her to ask how it was. she's full on ignoring me, and yes, this is her usual way of dealing with people when she is angry. i don't want to indulge her juvenile behaviour by calling her and asking what's wrong (if you're mad, come to me and talk about it...)

     
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    scissors    June 19, 2010   Atlanta, Ga

    Yeah, I don't think it's fair for them to make you absorb the price of the tickets. :(

     
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    You should be reimbursed for the unused ticket, plain and simple. 

     
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    thank you for the validation! i wanted to make sure i wasn't out of line :)

     

     
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    scissors    June 19, 2010   Atlanta, Ga

    Yeah, they're being totally ridiculous. I hate when people do stuff like that. I don't know why people suddenly become giant a-holes when money comes into play. Well, I guess I do, but I still don't like it.

     
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    arizonabride    June 2, 2010   Tucson, AZ

    Ugh! I hate these situations with friends and money. Especially when you are the one doing all the work and planning. I am that person amongst our friends, too. The "cruise director" and I've learned my lesson the hard way. Of course, you should be reimbursed for THEIR ticket, whether they use it or not. I know it goes w/o saying, but you should make them pay up front next time. Then they'll have to commit to going or it will be their issue if they don't. I hope your friend wakes up and apologizes!

     
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    mary-alice-me    May 24, 2009   Kentucky

    Yeah, they should pay for the ticket and be thankful you found at least one replacement! Try not to read too much into a short email ... she should come around. Just thank her and let it go. I hope you hear from the other one soon.

     

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