(Closed) Nondrinking and nondancing wedding

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

How about having a caricature artist draw at the reception?  That could be fun.  Or a jazz ensemble rather than ipod?  Some light dancing always happens spontaneously if there’s a good jazz combo playing and a nice vocalist.   

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I went to a great wedding with no dancing – Bee blogged about it here!

The Explorers Club

The big reason it worked is because they had a lot of fun entertainment.  There were great speeches and then the groom hired a poet to write a love song.  The event was fantastic, and very thoughtful/interesting…

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I was going to say that didn’t sound like much fun for the guests, but then I remembered the best wedding I ever went to was at a church with a brunch reception and no alcohol, and no dancing… and not even really any music. There was a piano and one of the guests is an excellent player and played for a little bit. It worked because there were lots of heartfelt toasts, and there wsa a lot of love in the room. There was no great entertainment, either… it was just a warm event.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My sisters wedding was like that.  THe reception hall didnt allow alcohol and no one in our family really dances, so it was just more of a “lets hang out and eat” ordeal.  I didnt mind it at all.  I thought it was nice to just have some background music and catch up with our extended family who lives out of state… and it let us be in bed early!!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I’m glad that people have been to dance-free, toss-free weddings and had a great time.  Although we’re having beer & wine, that’s it.  Background music and hoping family can catch up.  We are a bit worried that it might be boring though.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House

I saw a wedding on a blog a while ago where instead of centerpieces, they set up board games.  It looked like a lot of fun!  I was really trying to convince my FI to do this because he hates dancing, but he’s very traditional and just couldn’t envision it being fun.  I still thinks it’s a great idea – let us know how it turns out!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I don’t think you have any reasopn to worry. As someone who doesn’t like dancing, I would be relieved (oddly enough, we’re having dancing at our own wedding, mostly because my family loves it).

I agree with others – just provide entertainment for your guests. A photobooth is a great addition, as is the suggestion for a caricature artist! Have you thought about having interactive sweets, like a cookie or candy bar? Or an ice cream sundae station?

Just try to think of different ways to get your guests up and mingling, and in your case, maybe have a few more toats than normal? You and your new husband could also play those “newlywed” games where your friends and family could make up questions ahead of time, pass them around to guests at the reception to would like to participate, and have you answer them. Like, “who is more likely to sleep in” or “who would be the first to get tipsy at a party?” Things like that.

Hope this helps!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My wedding had no dancing or alcohol for religious reasons. It works fine. The time is filled up with eating, socializing, speeches, a bouquet & garter toss if applicable in your case, and soft background music. We had our photographers there so we had time to take plenty of pictures with all the guests.

I agree that a photobooth is a fun option. Maybe have some fun games to have guests participate in (though none come to mind at this time). I like the idea of a caricaturist.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i went to a wedding reception like that-it was okay-but most of the people there were very quiet in general so drinking or no drinking I don’t think this group liked to have fun. That said, the afterparty was AWESOME.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

As a pre-teen I attended a wedding like that, and I freely admit I was unbelievably bored. From what I recal there was nothing going on except dinner and a few speeches. But a wedding shoulnd’t be boring!

There are so many ways to add a little fun! Will you be playing a kissing game? If you’re having any young guests will there be something to keep them entertained?

I love the idea about about a caricaturist or photo booth! You could definitely add some fun and exciting entertainment! Even a budget friendly scavenger hunt where guests have to find the person who has done “x, y & z”.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We aren’t having either. No drinks for personal reasons and its in a public park so…and no dancing because that wasn’t the type of reception we wanted. It depends on the feel you are going for…we want ours to be more like a family get together picnic style. I’m more than sure that our families will have a good time catching up, eating, and enjoying a lazy saturday at a pretty park.

I don’t have much fun at “traditional” wedding receptions so I decided why would I do one for mine?

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We are getting married at 11 am on a Saturday  morning with brunch to follow-no dancing, no alcohol-just visiting. Of course, there are 37 kids on the guest list, since all of our friends have kids now, we wanted them to all be included. It will be busy, but much more visiting, socializing, catching up and maybe getting to talk a bit-since we’re always on the run with bday parties, soccer games, gymnastics practice…most of my friends and I are like ships in the night, so this will be an opportunity to slow down and enjoy each other’s company for a bit. We are having instrumental music playing in the background-a CD actually that I bought at Michael’s that has some very pretty (and not fussy!) classical mix on it. It also has a bit of classic wedding music (The Way You Look Tonight) in an instrumental format-I think no one will really notice. I think you’ll be fine!

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