Post # 1
Has anyone had a reception with no drinking and no dancing? We are having an afternoon wedding in a church with a dessert reception in the fellowship hall. We can’t have any alcohol and we can’t really envision many of our guests dancing either, so I think we are leaving that out. We are going to play our ipod for background music (like Frank Sinatra music) I just don’t want our reception to be boring. It will mostly be mingling and eating sweets. We have tables, but not enough for everyone but since it’s more like a cocktail reception (with no cocktails lol) I think it will work.
I was just wondering from brides that have done this if it worked out okay and if there are any things I should consider that I haven’t thought about.
Post # 3
How about having a caricature artist draw at the reception? That could be fun. Or a jazz ensemble rather than ipod? Some light dancing always happens spontaneously if there’s a good jazz combo playing and a nice vocalist.
Post # 4
I went to a great wedding with no dancing – Bee blogged about it here!
The Explorers Club
The big reason it worked is because they had a lot of fun entertainment. There were great speeches and then the groom hired a poet to write a love song. The event was fantastic, and very thoughtful/interesting…
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I was going to say that didn’t sound like much fun for the guests, but then I remembered the best wedding I ever went to was at a church with a brunch reception and no alcohol, and no dancing… and not even really any music. There was a piano and one of the guests is an excellent player and played for a little bit. It worked because there were lots of heartfelt toasts, and there wsa a lot of love in the room. There was no great entertainment, either… it was just a warm event.
Post # 6
My sisters wedding was like that. THe reception hall didnt allow alcohol and no one in our family really dances, so it was just more of a “lets hang out and eat” ordeal. I didnt mind it at all. I thought it was nice to just have some background music and catch up with our extended family who lives out of state… and it let us be in bed early!!
Post # 7
I’m glad that people have been to dance-free, toss-free weddings and had a great time. Although we’re having beer & wine, that’s it. Background music and hoping family can catch up. We are a bit worried that it might be boring though.
Post # 8
Yeah I hate when I go to weddings and can’t hear to talk over the dj. We wanted our reception to feel more like a family reunion than a huge party. I really wanted to be able to talk to everyone and hang out with the people I haven’t seen in forever. I’m from Mississippi and a lot of weddings down here are like that. The receptions are pretty quick in a fellowship hall with mingling instead of dancing.
I had originally wanted to do a diy photobooth and I still really want to, I just don’t know where we’ll put it. Also, we are having a candy buffett too. I’m trying to include some elements of fun and light heartedness.
Post # 9
- Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House
I saw a wedding on a blog a while ago where instead of centerpieces, they set up board games. It looked like a lot of fun! I was really trying to convince my FI to do this because he hates dancing, but he’s very traditional and just couldn’t envision it being fun. I still thinks it’s a great idea – let us know how it turns out!
Post # 10
I don’t think you have any reasopn to worry. As someone who doesn’t like dancing, I would be relieved (oddly enough, we’re having dancing at our own wedding, mostly because my family loves it).
I agree with others – just provide entertainment for your guests. A photobooth is a great addition, as is the suggestion for a caricature artist! Have you thought about having interactive sweets, like a cookie or candy bar? Or an ice cream sundae station?
Just try to think of different ways to get your guests up and mingling, and in your case, maybe have a few more toats than normal? You and your new husband could also play those “newlywed” games where your friends and family could make up questions ahead of time, pass them around to guests at the reception to would like to participate, and have you answer them. Like, “who is more likely to sleep in” or “who would be the first to get tipsy at a party?” Things like that.
Hope this helps!
Post # 11
My wedding had no dancing or alcohol for religious reasons. It works fine. The time is filled up with eating, socializing, speeches, a bouquet & garter toss if applicable in your case, and soft background music. We had our photographers there so we had time to take plenty of pictures with all the guests.
I agree that a photobooth is a fun option. Maybe have some fun games to have guests participate in (though none come to mind at this time). I like the idea of a caricaturist.
Post # 12
i went to a wedding reception like that-it was okay-but most of the people there were very quiet in general so drinking or no drinking I don’t think this group liked to have fun. That said, the afterparty was AWESOME.
Post # 13
As a pre-teen I attended a wedding like that, and I freely admit I was unbelievably bored. From what I recal there was nothing going on except dinner and a few speeches. But a wedding shoulnd’t be boring!
There are so many ways to add a little fun! Will you be playing a kissing game? If you’re having any young guests will there be something to keep them entertained?
I love the idea about about a caricaturist or photo booth! You could definitely add some fun and exciting entertainment! Even a budget friendly scavenger hunt where guests have to find the person who has done “x, y & z”.
Post # 14
It’s a dessert reception a week before Christmas, so I’m having a candy bar (along with the actual dessert buffet), and a hot chocolate and coffee bar. And yes, there are kids tables with games and toys on them. I’m also making wedding coloring books for the younger kids.
People don’t really stay at wedding receptions that long down here anyway, so it’s not going to be a 4 hour reception or anything like that.
We had thought about putting games on the tables but I had never seen that done before so we weren’t sure.
Post # 15
We aren’t having either. No drinks for personal reasons and its in a public park so…and no dancing because that wasn’t the type of reception we wanted. It depends on the feel you are going for…we want ours to be more like a family get together picnic style. I’m more than sure that our families will have a good time catching up, eating, and enjoying a lazy saturday at a pretty park.
I don’t have much fun at “traditional” wedding receptions so I decided why would I do one for mine?
Post # 16
We are getting married at 11 am on a Saturday morning with brunch to follow-no dancing, no alcohol-just visiting. Of course, there are 37 kids on the guest list, since all of our friends have kids now, we wanted them to all be included. It will be busy, but much more visiting, socializing, catching up and maybe getting to talk a bit-since we’re always on the run with bday parties, soccer games, gymnastics practice…most of my friends and I are like ships in the night, so this will be an opportunity to slow down and enjoy each other’s company for a bit. We are having instrumental music playing in the background-a CD actually that I bought at Michael’s that has some very pretty (and not fussy!) classical mix on it. It also has a bit of classic wedding music (The Way You Look Tonight) in an instrumental format-I think no one will really notice. I think you’ll be fine!