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None of my exes have gotten married...

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    Take The Reins    August 11, 2012   Canada

    Random realization today, not sure why, but it occurred to me that not a single one of my ex's (serious or casual fling/brief encounters) have gotten married yet.  Is that odd?  Does that say something about me, I mean do you think I ruined them lol?  Or did I really have exceptionally bad taste in men??  They are all over 25 now...it just surprises me.

    ETA; my mistake, one has, about 2 months ago.

     
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    jocember    August 17, 2013   Syracuse, NY

    People are getting married later and later in life. I'm sure it honestly has nothing to do with you and everything to do with whether they're ready or not yet. I don't believe any of mine are married, either.

     

     
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    MissDareDevil    April 2, 2011  

    yep, all of mine are in between 25 and 30 and none of them are married. in fact, one of them went to jail a couple months after we broke up (eek!).

    the other two are in med school, so maybe that explains it?

    none of husband's exes are married either, and some of them STILL contact him... UGH! :)

     
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    Take The Reins    August 11, 2012   Canada

    Ah, so glad I am not the only one!  For some reason it really hit me strangely to think that.  I can only think of one who I had a really messy breakup with (the one who married a couple months ago).  Though as PP said, people are marrying later in life, and if I really think about it I guess I'm an example lol, I'm 32 marrying for the first time!

     
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    GreenEyedMoon    January 14, 2012   Dallas

    One of my exes had already been married and divorced by the time he was twenty, but that's not surprising because during the two months we were together, he managed to cheat on me with over thirty women and one man.  I don't think he really counts.

    Other than him, the guy I dated after he had already been divorced once, and one guy I had a month-long fling with, everyone else is single.  I agree with jocember; it probably has little to do with us and everything to do with how late in life people get married these days.  Also, like MissDareDevil, a couple of my exes are pursuing further education, so that probably has a lot to do with it.

     
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    2dBride    October 6, 2009   Washington, DC.

    I have to say, my sense of failure at the fact that my ex-husband left me has been ameliorated considerably by the fact that fifteen years after the divorce, he has not remarried and has not had a relationship that lasted more than a year or two.  My twenty-year relationship with him is by far the longest anyone has been able to stay with him.

     
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    Angelz_love    June 16, 2012   San Francisco

    I am pretty sure it will be a LONG time before any of my ex's will get married. They WANTED to get married (thay actually all proposed to me) but they weren't ready and wont be for quite some time. All are older than me (31). Oh except for my sons dad, he got married like 1 1/2 months after we broke up and divorced right after...yeah he wasn't ready and has had a gf for 5 years and says he never wants to marry her ( to his friends not me)

     
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    deathbydesign    February 18, 2012   Lives in Ontario, married in Quebec

    One of my 3 ex's married recently. The guy I dated before my FI will likely get married one day, but he is the type to take things real slow. The last guy (my highschool sweetheart) will probably never get married lol.

     
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    ladyartichoke       UK

    None have mine have either.  And most of them aren't going anywhere either.  Just makes me realise how right I was to move on.

    One ex has had two children, but both were "mistakes".

     
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    BoiledPNut    April 2012  

    None of my exes beyond high school have gotten married.  In fact two moved back in with their parents soon after we broke up (one recently turned 40 too....glad I missed that boat!).

     
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    takemyhand    July 27, 2012   Ontario, Canada

    @Take The Reins:  Same here! I always date older men, so my ex's are all 25-36 now. One of them had a baby with a gf, one was in a very serious relationship (and possibly might be married?) but as far as I know, I am still the first one. It's strange.

     
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    totheislnds    February 12, 2011   NC

    out of the 3 long term serious boyfriend i've had before DH only one is married and has a baby. He was my first boyfriend ever (8th grade -11th grade) so i was super excited for him! his baby is freaking adorable!

    My most recent ex (before DH) has a pattern of getting girls married off haha. I swear...myself and the two girlfriend before me all got married to the person they dated after him. strange!

     
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    imageeksowhat    October 18, 2012   Richmond VA

    I have 6 exes ages 22-30 and none are married yet. However 2 have kids and 1 is in a really serious relationship with a great gal. 

    The oldest one is weird, though. I dated him like, 8 years ago and he hasn't been with anyone since me. Bizarre. I don't think I "ruined" him, I think he's just a really boring guy, lol. That's the reason I left. 

    He did get a little crazy stalker-ish when I first left, though...

     
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    Tarheelgurl       Canada

    I find it funny that one of my exes, who is hell bent on finding a wife, has yet to have a relationship last more than a month after we broke up for the last time. Before we stopped talking to each other altogether, he would love to tell me about his new girlfriend whenever he got one. It got to the point where me and a couple of my friends would playfully place pretend bets on how long it would last. I really wish him the best, but he said none of them match up to me, so I take that to be a compliment. :)

     
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    Tarheelgurl       Canada

    @imageeksowhat:  That sounds like a movie that came out awhile back. I remember from the commercials the guy got a reputation that every girl he slept with would find her husband soon after being with him. Never saw it, but what you said reminded me of it.

     
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    HappilyEverAfter54    June 23, 2012   Central Pennsylvania

    None of my ex's are married yet either.

    @Tarheelgurl:  Good Luck Chuck...

    I think my ex is Good Luck Chuck too... his ex before me got married and had a baby and I got engaged with the next guy I dated after him as well! LOL

     
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    Tarheelgurl       Canada

    @HappilyEverAfter54:  Haha yep that's the movie. I just looked at the trailer for it online and am now considering renting it to either watch with a friend this weekend, or forcing my SO to watch it for our date night tonight.

     
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    Lexy    January 15, 2012  

    Hmmm... I don't *think* any are married, but there's only one that I actually speak to, and he's engaged which I think is great.

    The others I really don't know. Maybe?

     
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    Juliepants    June 2, 2012   Ontario

    None of mine are married yet either....but a few of them have had some kids.  And one of them's come out as gay now!

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    I know a couple are married, or close to it. A few are single, and the last guy I ws with before dh still is, which just goes to show that maybe I wasn't the whole issue in our relationship

     
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    HappilyEverAfter54    June 23, 2012   Central Pennsylvania

    @Tarheelgurl:  I bought it a few year ago and I have seriously watched it like 20 times. It's really cute.

    @Juliepants:  ha! one of my ex's is now 'out of the closet' too.

     
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    imageeksowhat    October 18, 2012   Richmond VA

    @Tarheelgurl: yeah, Good Luck Chuck!! Hahaha, except I don't think this dude has even been on ONE date since being with me. Wth, hahaha. I mean, yeah, he wasn't exactly my type (he was like, a "high school relationship" that ended when HS did) but I didn't think he was COMPLETELY hopeless! 

     
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    bunnylovesbear    February 19, 2011   north of Boston, MA

    None of my exes are married, either...I guess that goes to show that they are exes for a reason!

     
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    Juliepants    June 2, 2012   Ontario

    @HappilyEverAfter54:  So it's not just me!  He and I have been friends with each other for a long time (post-dating) and he was admittedly "in love with me" for like honestly the first 2 years of my relationship with my current FI.  We stayed close friends and I sort of ignored it.  When he told me (this past summer) that he is gay, I secretly wondered, "does that mean that I'm.....dude-ly!?"

    Haha, it turns out that wasn't the case but I worried briefly.  :P

     
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    HeyKaraoke    October 6, 2013  

    @Take The Reins: You made me think about it and I realized that none of mine are, either! Well, my 7th-grade boyfriend and the guy who gave me my first kiss are, but none of my serious ex-boyfriends. Though my HS sweetheart is in a long-term relationship and seems very happy, so I'm glad for him :)

     
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    Take The Reins    August 11, 2012   Canada

    @HeyKaraoke:  Seems kind of strange to think about eh?  I don't know why it came to me, but it sure made me wonder!

     
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    KT808    October 18, 2012  

    Same here!

     
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    purple_orchids    October 6, 2012   Maryland

    Out of my two exes one is married. He married a year and a half ago. They met six months after he broke up with me, he proposed six months later and then they married. Whirlwind relationship, haha. 

    My first ex I haven't talked to in almost five years so I have no idea what he's doing. Truth be told it'll probably be years before he marries. 

     
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    SimplyChic11    December 30, 2011  

    None of my exes are married or even engaged. Either single or in weird relationships I'd be surprised if they led to marriage. Way too immature in my opinion which is why we broke up. 

     

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