None of my friends came to my shower :(

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1892 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@meranda:  I would be pissed and upset if my friends verbally accepted and then no-showed. I’m sorry that happened to you! 

Post # 4
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789 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@meranda:  Wow!  I’m sorry your friends didn’t show.  Is it possible they’re hurt about the elopement?  I don’t think you should feel bad about eloping and doing what is right for you; however, maybe that is the cause.  I’d reach out to them and let them know that you were hurt they didn’t attend and see what comes of that conversation

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@meranda:  That was very hurtful behavior on their part. To say they were coming, then just not show up is completely inappropriate.

I hope no one treats them like that when it is their turn.

 

Post # 6
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3738 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I feel your pain. It sucks. My mom invited 30 people to my shower. 21 RSVPed yes. 9 showed up.

Sorry your friends are poops 🙁

Post # 7
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1969 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Wow! I’d be really hurt by this behavior.

Post # 10
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3738 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@springbride23:  Yep. Only 3 of the 9 were my friends/bridesmaids. The rest were my mom’s friends from church and my boss’s wife.

Post # 11
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560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@s2bmrscook:  mine was a lot like this. 

I’m so sorry your friends were jerks. It’s not an excuse but are they quite young? They should know better than to EVER RSVP to something and then not show up, but especially for something so important. My only advice is don’t keep it all in. As you speak to your friends in your next conversations, I might casually ask “Are you okay? I was a little worried when you didn’t make it to the shower” and see what they say. You don’t want to stay upset at them forever. 

Post # 14
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3738 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@BluebonnetBride:  Ha I wish. Unfortunately we’re all mid- to late twenties. 4 of my bridesmaids were out of towners (MOH sister included, but she came) so I only had 3 who live here. One of the three had to work, even though her boss (who is also my former boss) knew far in advance. Not sure what happened to the rest of the shower guest list. 😛 

Post # 15
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3738 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@meranda:  It does suck. But I found the bright side pretty quickly: LEFTOVER CAKE!

Post # 16
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Honey bee

@meranda:  Not that it would make it right (especially since they RSVP’d), but is it possible they are all hurt/offended they are not invited to see you get married, since it is an elopement?

Also, have you asked them nicely what happened and why they didn’t show?

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