None of my friends have RSVP'd

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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873 posts
Busy bee

what is the due date for your RSVP’s?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yeah, it sounds like they feel bad that none of them can come and no one wants to be the one to say it. Even though you have insisted that it won’t hurt your feelings, they probably think you will still be upset.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@skippydarling:  Maybe they’re busy and forgot? Most weddings I go to, the people email everyone around the RSVP deadline to remind us to send our RSVP cards in, it helps a lot.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@skippydarling: I would call them and ask if they even received it. (They probably did) and ask if they are coming.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

This is such a crazy time of year, it’s easy for people to forget. When is your catering deadline? I’d wait until after Christmas or New Year’s, then send an email something like this-

“Hi, just touching base on your RSVP for our wedding on DATE. We know how easy it is to let deadlines slip by, but we need to give the caterer final numbers by DATE. If we don’t hear from you by then, we’ll have to assume you are a regrets. Hope you’ll be able to share the special day with us.”

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ya none of our friends RSVPd their decline even after a reminder, and neither did half my family. Ur not alone.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t think it’s pushy at all to give a friendly phone call to see if they are coming.  They’ve had more than enough time a week after the deadline.  If they are still wishy-washy, tell them if they haven’t gotten back to you after X days you’ll assume they can’t make it for catering reasons.

Unless you are from a culture that doesn’t do wedding RSVPs (I know they are uncommon in some Asian countries) I would expect that women in their 30’s would understand you need a number for catering.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@skippydarling:  I know, it’s just a really busy time of the year and you do have to hound people. Heck, I’ve had to remind people 3, 4 times just to get their mailing addresses. I’m so sorry to hear that you’re not getting RSVPs back but for the sake of your own feelings, don’t take it personally! I honestly don’t think people are doing this to avoid you or because they don’t like you. 

 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@skippydarling:  Also, FWIW, I don’t think it’s rude to get an RSVP reminder, I actually appreciate it. We live in a digital world where we’re less likely to look at dates on our written mail but look at email all the time. 

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