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I think he can say all that he wants, but in the end when he sees you walking down the aisle rocking whatever dress you choose you will make him speechless.
Haha! After that statement, I would totally want to rock the caveman dress! It's kind of like when you're told "don't press the red button" - well, I never had any intention of pressing it before, but now I have an uncontrollable desire to do just that!
I didn't let FH have any input on my dress. He gets what I give him!
@rachel leigh Yeah, because to him, it is not so much the dress, rather that I am confident and happy, right?
@Goldilocks1107 I know!!! I didn't even care about them, until I heard "No" now I see one and I'm all, "My Precious..."
No COLORS. I wasn't really planning on going there, but I not-your-average lady. But I am actually really excited to wear white for one day in my life!
But I won't pretend that I didn't have some dreams about dresses like this..
And I also will admit that when I just ordered the fabric swatches from Aria, I slipped in the order for this icy little pink swatch. I mean, it's alllllmost white, right?
Oh man I have thought about the icy pink myself. Right, it is almost white...just a little pink. :) With white veil and white roses and white shoes, sublime! I think the best may be to not even mention it to my FI if I go with pink!!!
Ahahaha! I was NOT expecting to see any Tarzan references in the dress thread.
I think he got to you a little bit too, because you made a Freudian slip and wrote "one bear shoulder" instead of "one bare shoulder" 
My hubs hates one shoulder shirts with a passion and also empire waists. Who knows what goes through is head but since it was our wedding and I wanted him to think I was a foxy lady I did take it into consideration. Do I normally....a bit but not if I really, really like something.
i think that it is cool that you are asking your FI for input. I'm doing the same thing but in the end i want/need to be comfortable and of course Pretty.... I'll take his considerations and try to find a compromise but if i can't then i'm gonna get what i think is pretty and in the end he won't even remember thinking that he didnt like that style of dress. (i hope.)
LOL! My FI calls one-shoulder looks "Andre the Giant" shirts/dresses!! I don't own too many one-shouldered items but when I DO wear one, I'm always reminded of what my FI thinks of them. HAHAHA!
@ KingCake, I like your style lady. I am thinking, with a Fuschia sash it will barely look pink at allll!
@ILikePink Thank you! Oh and I totally agree. Pink ties, pink sash, pink flowers, pink shoes, it will look white! But you will secretly know! ;)
My FI watched a bit of Say Yes to the Dress with me once and kept asking, "Why do those women want to look like mummies?" every time a girl would try on a dress with ruching!!
So I avoided ruching when wedding dress shopping, which wasn't a big deal for me.
But jeez, they're boys! What do they know about dresses anyway!?!?!
@meliss: hahahaha oh god, now all I can think of is an awesome Pronovias with a hairy bear-shoulder. Noooooooooooooooo
This is embarrassing to admit, but Joe totally STOLE a tux from a wedding he was in. He went to his parents house that night after the wedding, left it in the closet there, and never brought it back.
Finally, his mom brought it up like two months after the wedding, and he was too ashamed to bring it back to the store. So he still has it!
And wants to wear it in OUR wedding!
So this is our main style beef right now. Hahaha. I am like NO BLACK TUXES, just to avoid the stolen tux.
I am going to have to be the dissenting opinion here. I think that the idea of rocking a wedding dress "in [the groom's] face" takes the idea of "it's the bride's extra sparkly special day" a little to the extreme. It is the groom's extra sparkly special day, too. Both parties should have a say in what each other wears, in my opinion, because they will both have those pictures for the rest of their lives. I can understand how difficult it must be if that is your favorite dress ever, but surely, there must be some compromise? I guess if I knew for certain that my FI absolutely hated something about a dress, I would not choose it. Not only out of fairness to him, but because obviously on the wedding day I want him to look at me and think I am radiant and magical and the hottest woman alive and how lucky he is to marry me, etc, etc. I do not want him to look at me as I walk down the aisle and be distracted by thoughts like "dammit, she got the Tarzan dress!" Think about what would happen if the roles were reversed and the groom were insistent upon wearing a plaid bowtie or whatever. Most people would tell the bride that she were absolutely allowed to forbid him to wear it.
@Amaryllis, I didn't mean rocked it maliciously, I mean she looked awesome, and he thought she looked awesome. Maybe instead of "in his face" I should have said "in spite of his inability to visualize what a pleasing silhouette it would produce". But you're right, I don't want him to be thinking "Dang, Tarzan, really?" when I'm walking down the aisle. But a part of me also thinks we could get 2 hrs into the reception and I'll be like "So you like my dress, even though it is Tarzan?" and he'll be all "Oh shite, you know I didn't even notice babe, gorgeous!" Option two is the most likely with my FI.
In other words, "But jeez, they're boys! What do they know about dresses anyway!?!?!" SO TRUE!
I was going to shut up but I'll write another dissenting opinion, Amaryllis inspired me to speak up LOL
I think that wanting to do something only because you are being told "no" is a bad thing for a relationship... I mean, if you were really into those "Tarzan sh*t" dresses, I would understand but since you are not I don't understand.
Plus, I don't understand your FH to put such a prohibition. Had he said "asymmetrical garments look bad on you" I would have understand but telling you "none of that Tarzan sh*t" JUST because *he* doesn't like it, I don't understand.
I chose the dress without even showing anything to my FH because when I fall in love with something I have to have it if I can afford it. So I avoided any "prohibitions" on his side... which he wouldn't have uttered unless he had a reason to (it wouldn't have been a personal preference).
Yeah I agree Kingcake, sometimes he will be completely against it but he is far from a fashion guru so then when he sees it he's very happy. But...that's why I have to really really like it to know he will too and I didn't want to chance it at all for my wedding dress because it's not just him in the relationship who's a bit oblivious to good fashion.
I had FI look at some Bridal Mags to get an idea of what he might want to see on me. But this was after 2 dress shopping trips and determining that a form fitting mermaid or trumpet (which I NEVER expected!) was the way to go for me.
Of course he picked all the A-lines and princess gowns!
I just told myself that on our day, when he sees my body and curves looking amazing in my dress, he'll forget about those other dresses! Knowing him, he probably already has forgotten, heh. He doesn't have the greatest memory.
LOL - I had the opposite problem! I sent my FI to a site with bridesmaid dresses to ask him about a colour, and next thing you know he's sending my links to a one-strap dress. Then yesterday he sent me a photo of a 1 strap bikini he liked. HUN - I don't like one strap things!!
@gionetto: I think it is human nature to want something that has been taken out of your options, and has nothing to do with my relationship, which is the healthiest and happiest I have been in and runs like a top. I think he just has an idea about what looks "bridal". Although he is a pretty progressive dude, he has surprised me with some more traditional requests for the wedding, and I think it is sweet that he has even thought about these things. He wants my dad to give me away, and he wants the typical classical wedding procession and recession, and I have let him have his way on these requests 100%. But when it comes to my dress, I am just wondering if he really knows what he's saying...as I am not marrying Tom Ford. As troubled said, he is far from a fashion guru.
After hounding him about what he absolutely didn't want, my fiance reluctantly volunteered that he didn't like big poufy dresses (qualifying it with the statement that he'd be happy with whatever I'm happy with). I'm not a poufy kind of girl so I didn't have any problem with complying at the time ... but then the dress I chose is an A-line with a fuller skirt. I'm hoping that he doesn't think it's too poufy. But really, I'm not sure if he has a defined idea of when 'okay poufy' crosses over into 'not-okay poufy', so it doesn't bother me too much.
And I think that some guys don't actually think about what they do or don't like with weddings and wedding attire, for some reason they just assume that certain things are traditional or 'normal' wedding things, and that's what they want (or at least what they think they want...).
@kingcake, I thought this post was so funny, reminds me of my SO. I also liked asymmetrical dresses but when my SO saw it he said "You look like a princess from an uncivilized village" geezzz :)
my FI was concerned about the "girls" being out in plain view...lol..needless to say, I'm a bit...chesty...he did say that a strapless dress might be too revealing, but when I told him that's what I wanted we just agreed that I wouldn't get a deep sweatheart neckline...in the end I went dress shopping and found a very nice strapless dress with a soft sweatheart. He hasn't seen it, but I'm sure he'll like it on the day of...if not, well, too late, right? lol...
I wanted a colored wedding dress. But that was Fi's ONE request about the entire wedding, so I gave in. I don't feel bad though. I didn't want him to wear a tux, so we're even.
This thread is so funny. I experience this all the time with FI. I show him an article of clothing on a mannequin or hanger, he says he hates it, I tell him to shut up because he'll love it on me. Then he does. Boys usually don't understand dresses. If you're certain a dress is going to look smokin' hot and you love it to pieces, and he has some misgiving about it, I don't think it's really such a big deal that it'd cause a rift in your relationship. He'll probably just admit he was wrong. :P
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So I have an awesome Fiancé, he is my love and my life and he is way laid back, and so much fun. He is patient and kind and amazing. But I don't think he understands my vision when it comes to the wedding dress.
I've shown him a few options to make sure he won't be like "What in god's name are you wearing". I understand the Pronovias Farandula (Oooooh this dress is so awesome it makes me want to have two weddings) would be way too out there for him, and that is ok. But now I have been limited in a way I cannot comprehend, after he stated, "None of that Tarzan sh*t." Tarzan sh*t, as you may be asking...refers to asymmetrical dresses, which I LOVE. I love the fact that I can have the support of one strap and one bear shoulder. I love them, I am now even more in love with them because I have been denied.
The funny part is that I think he actually meant Caveman Sh*t, as I cannot find any pics of Tarzan with more than a loin cloth on, but I have found ample pics of Cavemen with one shoulder outfits. Anyway, I understood what he meant.
Do any of you have to deal with limitations imposed by your Fiancé when it comes to a dress? If so, are you going to listen? One of my best friends was instructed "No nightgowns" and she bought and ROCKED the most awesome silk charmeuse Vera in his face. It was awesome.