Post # 1
My boyfriend and I are very rational. Economy hit hard like it did for everyone and we are still making a life for ourselves, purchasing another car, starting to save for a house and to further ourselves, etc. With this in mind and a lingering issue with my parents racist and ignorant rants over our relationship we have had an unusual courtship.
I know he has the ring, I helped pick it out and even got to try it on to make sure it fit the day he got it. That was 6 months ago and I have no idea where he is keeping it. We started paying for our destination wedding in Jamaica with confirmed dates and even organizing the wedding with a specific date and we aren’t even officially engaged yet. There was one condition that he placed on everything, I am not allowed to try on or buy a dress till after we are officially engaged which I assume will happen some time in 2011.
Some people wouldn’t be crazy about such a non traditional type of situation but I am in pins and needles about when and how he is gonna propose…. Honestly I am ridiculously excited.
Anyone else do things out of the ordinary?
Post # 3
@PrettyInInk_85: Ours was similiar. We bought the ring together and it needed to be sized, so when it was ready for pick up, they called him and not me. In the meantime, we had already picked a date and booked the photographer and caterer. I didn’t ask questions and he waited until I least expected it….. for us it was perfect, because we were able to get a ring we could afford since our finances had already been pooled, it was something we knew I’d love, and I still got a complete surprise of a proposal!!
Post # 4
We didn’t even have a proposal–we just agreed one day to get married. Actually, the day he asked (it wasn’t a surprise), we hadn’t picked out a ring yet, so he gave me a mood ring for the time being! I helped pay for the ring and he gave it to me a few days before Christmas. Ours was about as practical as you can get, but it suited us perfectly. 🙂
I’m sending engagement-vibes your way! A friend of mine just got engaged over the weekend and she was in a similar situation–had helped pick out the ring and knew he had it, but didn’t know when.
Post # 5
Your vibes must of worked cause out of no where my boyfriend proposed tonight over dinner – It was completely random and out of the blue, he didn’t have the ring on him even. But it was absolutely perfect and us. When we got home he took the ring out of his hiding spot (still not telling me what it was) and placed the ring on my finger. So as of now I am engaged 🙂
Post # 7
My story is pretty untraditional. I met my FI 6 years ago when we were working together in London. We always liked each other, but he has a long time gf he wouldn’t cheat on (good guy!) and I was only there for 6 months. Long story short, I promised the day I left that I would come visit him in South Africa one day. It took 6 years, but I went over New Year’s. The first day I was there, I mentioned maybe we should get married. After 2 weeks of talking about it, he turned to me in the car and said “Do you really want to marry me?” I of course responded yes, so he called his mom and told her he needed her to meet someone. I still don’t have a ring (which is ok) and my parents were a little freaked out, but it’s turned out great!
Post # 8
And yes I think non-traditional proposals are more and more common these days. My Fi didn’t touch trying to buy me a ring with a 10 ft pole because I’m allergic to gold and I hate diamonds. He knew it was best to propose sans ring and let me pick something I really wanted and could wear (allergically speaking)
Post # 9
Mine proposed with a wooden ring and then we picked out another together.
Post # 10
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Post # 11
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 9.5 years, 10 in December. Something had to give, so I told him last year he has a deadline of our 10 year anniversary to propose and he agreed. He promised me we would be engaged in 2011…We are moving to New York (from Orange County, CA) next month for him to attend business school for the next two years, but we still want to have our wedding here. So, since it is now the end of June 2011 I know that there are now 5.5 months until we are officially engaged he gave me the green light to start planning. I am trying to get as much figured out before we move, because after we move I will be doing the majority of my planning from long distance. I at least want to pick my venue out. So no, we aren’t “officially as society would like to see it” engaged with a ring, but we have been together for 9.5 years, have been living together for over 5 years, and are best friends. We will be together forever i am just getting ahead of the game. I think we are the smart women planning ahead so we don’t have to get stressed out by everyone asking “When is the wedding?!” as soon as we announce our official engagement! 🙂
Post # 12
We are in the same boat. We decided that we wanted to get married this year, and we have a trip to Italy planned in September. He hasn’t actually proposed yet, and I was beginning to think that he wasn’t going to because we booked the place we’re getting married, and we bought the air fare. We’ve pretty much already purchased everything with the exception of my rings, and his suit. Yesterday on lunch I was going over everything that we’ve purchased, and the few things left (Since we’re about 2 months away from the date). He was like, “I don’t want you to worry about your rings, you have nothing to do with that, and don’t worry about your proposal either. I’ve got it covered.” Well not gonna lie, I started crying because although I felt that I didn’t “need” a proposal, I was a little bummed that I missed out on that “milestone”. The fact that he still wants to propose in his own special way means SO much to me, and I’m just so lucky to have him!!!
Post # 13
DH and I had dated for 7 years. We lived in border cities, him in Canada and me in the US about 15 minutes apart. We decided to move in together, and we purchased a house in the US in my name that he would “stay” at every night and then go to work in Canada every morning.
About 3 months later, we were stopped at the border and the Customs agent told us that he could no longer cross because he was living in the US without a visa (not technically illegal because he wasn’t working or going to school there, but customs can deny entry for no reason at all). The customs agent said in order for us to get a visa, we would have to get married, and the sooner we were married, the sooner we could apply for our visa. So DH (boyfriend at the time) turned to me and said “what are you doing next weekend?”
The next day, we called our Rabbi and parents and told them we were getting married in 2 weeks. We met with the jeweler and DH started the process of getting my ring made, which was done in 1 week so DH “proposed” to me the next weekend at a restaurant with a ring box that said “Will you marry me…. next Saturday”.
We got married, filed for his Green Card, and he had to move back in with his parents in Canada until we received his Visa. We planned an actual wedding for 8 months later. He got his Visa in 2 months after that, and was able to move back into our house.
So our timeline goes as follows: dated, bought a house together, moved in together, got engaged, got proposed to, got married, moved back in with his parents, had a wedding, moved back in with me.
Post # 14
Agreed. I’m actually happy to find out other people can have similar stories. I’m not engaged yet… but will be soon. I’m pretty sure he has the ring. We picked it out together and were discussing marriage long before that. Up till recently I didn’t even expect to get a ring since we’re both in or just out of school. We’ve already discussed whether or not to have a small ceremony or to just elope and have a reception when we get back from a vacation.
Congrats by the way!