(Closed) NOOOOOO!!!! FI's mother just friended me on facebook!!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

Why don’t you just put her on limited privacy settings – she probably won’t even realize the difference.

Post # 4
4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@hermitcrab:  Stole the words right out of my mouth!

Post # 7
2551 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m of the opinion that no matter what you do something will eventually slip through. I got FI’s entire family pissed off at me a while back for posting an update after I bought plane tickets to his brothers wedding; all I said was that it was crazy expensive for us to keep coming back to GA annually, and people should be warned that we aren’t doing it next year, we’re spending our money on a real vacation & if they want to see us they need to fork it out themselves”… HOLY SHIT STORM BATMAN! After his mother, sister, brother, & who knows who else saw it it became “oh, she’s just jealous that brother & his Fiance are getting married before her”… 

All this because I did have certain people set with certain limits on facebokk but a combo of 2 things happened: 1- the privacy setting are always changing & updating, & 2- a mutual friend commented on the post, which then put the post on their walls… Not much you can do in those situations.. 

After all of it I just decided to unfriend, and let him deal with his family from now on. If they wanna know whats up they can talk to him. Looking back, I should have never friended her, and just let the request sit until she forgot about it… 

Post # 8
1115 posts
Bumble bee

@BeckyS0:  You can make it so that things don’t show up on friends of friends’ news feeds. 

OP, I believe there is a blanket option for hiding past posts. If I remember correctly, I hid everything from my SOs mom, and then went through and made visible what WAS appropriate. It was much easier that way. Innocent

Post # 11
2778 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

There is a way to block old things.  FI’s mother is my friend on facebook but I don’t care and she doesn’t pay attention to anything anyway as a matter a fact when I put my ring on facebook she was the last to know for some reason.  She is not friends with Fiance on his dummy account and wasn’t on his old real account that he deleted either.  My mother is my friend on facebook too but I didnt bother to hide anything from her.  The time I hide things is my game posts which I hide from eveyone except my game friends, because who wants to see that unless your playing the game, and I hide things from coworkers if I even choose to friend them,  posts and all pictures.

Like PP’s said make sure you stay on top of privacy settings, because they change. On another note thats pretty impressive that she even has a facebook at her age my mom is in her 50’s and has a hard time working her account.

Post # 12
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@hermitcrab:  this!!!

I’m only friends with my Future Mother-In-Law on LinkedIn which is work appropriate.

Post # 13
2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yeah, that was a rough moment for me too.

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