Post # 1
she’s not even friends with Fiance on facebook!? not even her own son!! why god, why???
my future Mother-In-Law is a really nice woman, but holy crap, I could not be more different from her. she is of an older generation (71) and devoutly religious, with strong beliefs on the major social/political issues tied to her religion. i am very much not in agreement with some of the social stances of that religion. i try to keep politics and religion off facebook, but when something outrageous happens, i want to be free to share my thoughts on it. and i am sure there are way too many drunk pictures from birthdays gone by… *sigh*
looks like ill be spending my afternoon removing pics and posts, making my facebook Mother-In-Law appropriate!
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
Why don’t you just put her on limited privacy settings – she probably won’t even realize the difference.
Post # 4
@hermitcrab: Stole the words right out of my mouth!
Post # 6
thats the plan, but i am worried about something slipping through… i just really hate facebook for this stuff… i love staying in touch with my far away friends but there are many people that i do not want to be friends with on facebook, ie coworkers i hardly know, in-laws…
Post # 7
I’m of the opinion that no matter what you do something will eventually slip through. I got FI’s entire family pissed off at me a while back for posting an update after I bought plane tickets to his brothers wedding; all I said was that it was crazy expensive for us to keep coming back to GA annually, and people should be warned that we aren’t doing it next year, we’re spending our money on a real vacation & if they want to see us they need to fork it out themselves”… HOLY SHIT STORM BATMAN! After his mother, sister, brother, & who knows who else saw it it became “oh, she’s just jealous that brother & his Fiance are getting married before her”…
All this because I did have certain people set with certain limits on facebokk but a combo of 2 things happened: 1- the privacy setting are always changing & updating, & 2- a mutual friend commented on the post, which then put the post on their walls… Not much you can do in those situations..
After all of it I just decided to unfriend, and let him deal with his family from now on. If they wanna know whats up they can talk to him. Looking back, I should have never friended her, and just let the request sit until she forgot about it…
Post # 8
@BeckyS0: You can make it so that things don’t show up on friends of friends’ news feeds.
OP, I believe there is a blanket option for hiding past posts. If I remember correctly, I hid everything from my SOs mom, and then went through and made visible what WAS appropriate. It was much easier that way.
Post # 9
@BeckyS0: All this because I did have certain people set with certain limits on facebokk but a combo of 2 things happened: 1- the privacy setting are always changing & updating, & 2- a mutual friend commented on the post, which then put the post on their walls… Not much you can do in those situations..
ugh! this is exactly what i am afraid of. i am also friends with FIs sister who is cool and i wouldnt normally limit, but i’ll have to limit her to avoid that i guess.
Post # 10
@DeadlyNightshade: oooohhh that would be lovely! i am going to have to figure this out. i never made a limited profile before. i try to only be friends with people i am cool with knowing stuff about me…
that and ex boyfriends i want to make sure know i am doing better than they are 😉 (kidding! … mostly)
Post # 11
There is a way to block old things. FI’s mother is my friend on facebook but I don’t care and she doesn’t pay attention to anything anyway as a matter a fact when I put my ring on facebook she was the last to know for some reason. She is not friends with Fiance on his dummy account and wasn’t on his old real account that he deleted either. My mother is my friend on facebook too but I didnt bother to hide anything from her. The time I hide things is my game posts which I hide from eveyone except my game friends, because who wants to see that unless your playing the game, and I hide things from coworkers if I even choose to friend them, posts and all pictures.
Like PP’s said make sure you stay on top of privacy settings, because they change. On another note thats pretty impressive that she even has a facebook at her age my mom is in her 50’s and has a hard time working her account.
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I’m only friends with my Future Mother-In-Law on LinkedIn which is work appropriate.
Post # 13
Yeah, that was a rough moment for me too.