Post # 1
I know there are tons of posts about etiquette with honeymoon funds, but I’m not talking about placing jars on each table at my wedding asking for money, which I agree is quite tacky.
My FI and I have two traditional registries with housewares, bed & bath stuff, etc., but when we went to our travel agent to book our honeymoon, she suggested setting up a honeymoon registry as well, where guests can either purchase gifts from our standard registries, or put money toward our honeymoon itself, excursions like snorkeling or scuba diving, or toward upgrades like spa packages, private dinners, and the like.
I sort of like the idea, but I don’t want people to see it as something similar to the honeymoon fund jars and think I’m expecting that people pay for our honeymoon.
Thoughts? Tacky or acceptable?
Post # 3
I think it’s gradually becoming more “accepted,” but I still have never seen one IRL, and would probably roll my eyes a little bit if I did, and then I would probably just give them a check (which is what I would do normally…) but honestly I’d give it for a little less than normally. My reasoning: If you truly don’t need “things” to fill a house (which is why you wouldnt be registering at a store,) then I’m going to assume you are “set” for life and you dont need money. And if you do need money, then why are you going on a fancy honeymoon which you are expecting me to fund. A honeymoon is not a “requirement” of getting married!
Feel free to disagree with me – I’m just explaining my reasoning.
Post # 4
Me and FI have been living together for almost 3 yrs now And moved to a new home over a year ago, so we don’t need toasters and towels, we decided to open an online honeymoon funds. We are paying for the honeymoon ourselves, the fund allows guest to gift a couples massage, candle light dinner, champagne in the room, the gifts start at $10, so anyone can gift and not break their pocket. I saw it pointless in opening a registry at a store for people to buy things we already have. My wedding is very small and only close friends and family will be attending about 50-60 guest and I’m sure none of them would think it’s tacky. Like pp mentioned a honeymoon isn’t a requirement but nor is a gift and lots of brides get bent out of shape when they don’t get one. So I say honeymoon funds are totally acceptable if that is what you want!
Post # 5
I’m not usually a fan of honeymoon registries, but I think as long as you’ve registered for some actual physical gifts as well it would be okay.