Post # 1
Is it normal to be overly emotional before you get married? My fiance has been deployed and he comes back next month. I’ve done really well for the past 5 months but now that he comes home in a month I’ve been having the hardest time. I think a lot of that is because I have had to spend the holidays pretty much alone.
We plan to elope in February and I feel very frustrated and confused. Today was an anniversary for us and he barely remembered. I’ve done all the planning for us getting married by myself – not that there is much to plan with an elopement… But he hasn’t even looked at the vows I emailed a month ago because he hasn’t had time yet. My friends are all preoccupied with their own thing so I haven’t had anyone to share my excitement or plans with. I find myself feeling depressed when I think I should be excited. I don’t want to talk to anyone about this because I don’t want anyone to feel that I’m whining but as time goes by I start to feel angry. I hope this is normal anxiety or something that people go through before they get married?
Post # 3
((HUGS)) i think it i s normal because your fi is in iraq, i am sure that this is very stressful. there are other women who have been in a situation similar to yours and i’m sure they will pipe in. if you want to talk wedding, etc definitely come on here 😀 we are all weddings all the time and we love it :D… where are you eloping to?
Post # 4
Thanks:) I hope it’s normal and that I’m not just being too mopey. We are going to San Francisco and getting married on Valentine’s day. I am currently looking for a dress. Maybe I will be a little more excited when I find a dress:) I got a lot of great suggestions on that from this site already – I’m looking for something gray and then I want to get a bouquet of red roses – he has sent me red roses quite often.
Post # 5
That sounds so romantic. San Francisco is such a beautiful city and you will have an amazing day. I am sure you are really lonely without your FI. You must miss and worry about him so much. It’s perfectly normal to feel that way given your circumstances.
If you need to talk wedding, this is the place!
Post # 6
It sounds like normal anxiety to me. It is so stressful planning a wedding plus you haven’t seen your FI in months or possibly years. Just try to relax this time of year and do some things to keep your mind off the fact that you are spending the holidays alone. He will be home soon!
Post # 7
I miss him like crazy! It has been five months. And who knows when he will go back again. I have done really well up until now and I have been told that the last month is the hardest. I would have thought it would be the easiest. I guess it’s normal to get pre-wedding stress and anxiety no matter your circumstance.