@MrsPhilly: I totally understand your struggle! I read about a lot of nose jobs gone bad, but the common theme is that they:
– went to a surgeon who wasn’t an otolaryngologist or ENT
– went to a surgeon who doesn’t almost exclusively do rhinoplasty
– had unrealistic expectations
– weren’t flexible with time (including the possibility of a revision in 12-18 months!)
– had a doctor who didn’t listen to their concerns
– let their budget play big a factor
– weren’t a good candidate for rhinoplasty in the first place, either mentally or physically
A combination of any of the above is possibly disastrous. Your nose is in the middle of your face, is integral to functioning normally, and continues to grow and change as you get older. I saved $15,000 before my surgery because I knew that in Toronto, that was the high end of what it would cost. I also wanted to make sure I could afford to fly to NY or NJ if I found a doctor there who seemed fabulous. As soon as I met my doctor, I cancelled all other consults and immediately booked my surgery. We had a good connection, he tempered my expectations, and I followed my gut knowing that I could trust him. It turned out better than I could have even imagined! But like I said, I did my research and didn’t decide to get the surgery until I met the right doctor FOR ME. I also knew that there was the risk of revision, though my doctor has a miniscule percentage of patients who need that. Fortunately, I won’t need a revision, but like I said, my progress with swelling is much slower than his other patients. You won’t know how your body reacts until you’ve had the surgery.
I will say that I moved and met a TON of new people 6 weeks after my surgery and none of them have any idea I had this done. At 6-8 weeks, I thought I looked normal, but now as my swelling goes down month by month, I realize I had a long way to go. If I had my wedding pictures done at 8-12 weeks, I’d probably be unhappy with them in hindsight because I looked good then, but I look MUCH better now.
If you’re on a timeline (surgery, then wedding), or have budget constraints, this may not be the best time for you. If you can pursue it with an open and critical mind, and a full understanding of the risks involved, then I really highly recommend it.
I can PM you my doctor’s name and some resources I used.