(Closed) Nosy Coworkers!!

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MissBMarie1428:  Luckily I had no symptoms so I could hide my pregnancy at work. Continue stepping out to make phone calls. At this point your next appointment is in a month right? Say you are going to your husband’s appointment or you have a physical or you have a dental appointment and quickly leave.

I know sucking on sour candies helps my tummy when it starts to get queasy. If they ask out right, you have the right to tell them “No”. When you are ready to tell and they ask why you waited, tell them you followed doc’s orders to wait until the 2nd trimester. That’s what I did.

Post # 4
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607 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It sucks that they are so nosy, but I’d come up with a better excuse for next time. Like, oh it’s a dentist appointment, and something like needing follow up for a cavity, or something unpleasant but boring. Or you could keep being vague like you are, which they should compltely respect and back off, but in case you want to avoid more of that, that’s what I would do.

Post # 5
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383 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve never been pregnant so I have no practical advice on hiding the pregnancy, but I just wanted to chime in to say that I think you handled that situation perfectly.  It was super rude of your coworker to push you further about a doctor’s appointment.  What if it had been for some embarrassing medical thing?  What if it was just a routine gyno appointment?  What if you were going to the proctologist?  These aren’t the kinds of things ANYONE wants to share with coworkers!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel like its fine for someone to ask is everything all right but asking what kind of Dr. is crossing a line. Unless you have a close relationship with your coworker and share a Dr. (half my department goes to the same OBGYN) its not okay for them to ask.

Post # 7
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227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

That is the height of rudeness to ask what kind of doctors appointment.. and three times at that! Stand your ground- they have no right to know. I can’t lie very well (even a white one like a “dentist appt”).. I think just saying you don’t wish to discuss it is perfect! Hope they settle down for you =(

Post # 8
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680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Man, talk about rude. I can’t believe the woman couldn’t take the hint. I’m afraid I’m going to be dealing with the same stuff if/when that time comes for me.

Hoping they back off after that until you’re ready to let the news out!

Post # 9
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1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Dentist appointment, if you have a pet you could say a vet appointment, or just say “I have an appointment”. Really, I’d just walk away when they question it if you are that concern, or if they keep pushing the topic tell HR. It’s none of their business why you have a doctors appointment and pushing it really is inappropriate.

I wasn’t able to hide it from my coworkers. By 6 weeks I was extremely sick and put on medication. I missed at least 1-2 days a week of work. I caved and told my boss right away due to this, then gradually my other coworkers caught on (one actually assumed I was pregnant before I even found out, due to having an aversion to my favorite food). Thankfully everyone was really low key about it and just wanted to make sure I was feeling well. I work with a small company (less than 15), so it was way too difficult to keep it a secret.

Or you could just be a jerk and tell her you have a UTI or some other issue. Usually they back off pretty quick when you bring up topics like that 😉

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