Post # 1
So I had a doctor’s appointment today and found out that I’m 7.5 weeks along (YAY!). DH and I want to wait a few more weeks before we really start telling anyone outside of close friends and family, but I seriously have the nosiest coworkers in the world and I’m having a hard time keeping it from them. For example, today, I had to leave early for my doctor’s appointment, and I got the third degree about it!! It was so rude!!! The one was like, “Oh, you’re going to the doctor?” -“Yep, I’ll be leaving at 2:45.” –“What for?” –“Oh, I would rather not discuss it, thanks.” –“Well, ok, what kind of doctor are you going to?” –(blank stare) “Um, just the doctor…really, I don’t want to talk about it.” –“Is everything ok?” and then I snapped…”Ok you know what, I said it’s a doctor’s appointment and I don’t want to discuss it further, but thank you for your concern.” And then she was mad at me for the next hour.
How in the world did you keep your pregnancy from the folks that you’re around basically all the time? I mean, I’m sick constantly, have to hide to make phone calls, and have to make up excuses to leave so it’s not “the doctor” and I get a barrage of questions. My boss knows so I really don’t care where everyone else thinks that I am, but it’s still annoying!
Post # 3
@MissBMarie1428: Luckily I had no symptoms so I could hide my pregnancy at work. Continue stepping out to make phone calls. At this point your next appointment is in a month right? Say you are going to your husband’s appointment or you have a physical or you have a dental appointment and quickly leave.
I know sucking on sour candies helps my tummy when it starts to get queasy. If they ask out right, you have the right to tell them “No”. When you are ready to tell and they ask why you waited, tell them you followed doc’s orders to wait until the 2nd trimester. That’s what I did.
Post # 4
It sucks that they are so nosy, but I’d come up with a better excuse for next time. Like, oh it’s a dentist appointment, and something like needing follow up for a cavity, or something unpleasant but boring. Or you could keep being vague like you are, which they should compltely respect and back off, but in case you want to avoid more of that, that’s what I would do.
Post # 5
I’ve never been pregnant so I have no practical advice on hiding the pregnancy, but I just wanted to chime in to say that I think you handled that situation perfectly. It was super rude of your coworker to push you further about a doctor’s appointment. What if it had been for some embarrassing medical thing? What if it was just a routine gyno appointment? What if you were going to the proctologist? These aren’t the kinds of things ANYONE wants to share with coworkers!
Post # 6
I feel like its fine for someone to ask is everything all right but asking what kind of Dr. is crossing a line. Unless you have a close relationship with your coworker and share a Dr. (half my department goes to the same OBGYN) its not okay for them to ask.
Post # 7
That is the height of rudeness to ask what kind of doctors appointment.. and three times at that! Stand your ground- they have no right to know. I can’t lie very well (even a white one like a “dentist appt”).. I think just saying you don’t wish to discuss it is perfect! Hope they settle down for you =(
Post # 8
Man, talk about rude. I can’t believe the woman couldn’t take the hint. I’m afraid I’m going to be dealing with the same stuff if/when that time comes for me.
Hoping they back off after that until you’re ready to let the news out!
Post # 9
Dentist appointment, if you have a pet you could say a vet appointment, or just say “I have an appointment”. Really, I’d just walk away when they question it if you are that concern, or if they keep pushing the topic tell HR. It’s none of their business why you have a doctors appointment and pushing it really is inappropriate.
I wasn’t able to hide it from my coworkers. By 6 weeks I was extremely sick and put on medication. I missed at least 1-2 days a week of work. I caved and told my boss right away due to this, then gradually my other coworkers caught on (one actually assumed I was pregnant before I even found out, due to having an aversion to my favorite food). Thankfully everyone was really low key about it and just wanted to make sure I was feeling well. I work with a small company (less than 15), so it was way too difficult to keep it a secret.
Or you could just be a jerk and tell her you have a UTI or some other issue. Usually they back off pretty quick when you bring up topics like that 😉
Post # 10
Thanks for the ideas, everyone! I love the idea of coming up with something gross like a UTI so they just leave me alone haha! I’m sure that they have an idea that something is up, because when I started there almost 2 years ago, I brought in a Keurig and basically wore it out every day…and I don’t think I’ve even turned it on for weeks now.
Sidebar, thank you, pregnancy…I’m now horrified by the smell of coffee. It’s probably better that way I guess lol.