Post # 1
First time poster here! I have a dilemma.. So my fiance proposed to me on July 11th while on a camping trip (it was very sweet and sentimental because he took me back to the beach where he first told me he loved me). Although we had talked about getting married we had agreed to put off the engagement for another year due to some unforseen expenses. So needless to say I was very surprised when he popped the question, and with a ring he had picked out all by himself! He was so excited and proud for doing all the research and shopping alone.
While my ring is beautiful, it’s definitely not something I would have picked out, and it really isn’t my style. I spoke to my fiance about changing the setting or modifying the current one and he was not on board. His thoughts are that the engagement ring is given to the woman as a symbol of love by the man and since it is his “token of affection” he should be the one to say what it looks like. I do somewhat agree, but I also feel as though I should like it at least a bit since I’m going to be wearing it for the rest of my life!
I think I have convinced him to allow me to change the head out for one with a halo around it to make it a little more “me” while keeping the original setting but I’m not sure how it will look with the current style of ring that I have. I do think it would help the center diamond stand out a little more from the wider band. Should I suck it up and keep it as is or add a halo head?
Round brilliant, .96 carat, G, VSI2, excellent cut
with a platinum 3.3mm channel set band
Post # 3
Kudos to him because that diamond looks amazing!! However, I don’t think adding a halo to that ring is the answer. I don’t know if it would be possible for one thing, and I think the band looks too thick to look right with a halo. Unless you are looking for a chunky ring look, which is totally fine if that’s your style.
Post # 4
@stephadele: I think it’s very pretty! I would not add a halo. I somewhat agree with your fiancé, but not entirely. Is he open to an upgrade in the future? I didn’t give my husband any specifics before he picked out my ering. The only thing he knew was that I wanted a princess cut (and he learned that from my sister). It was on a super thin yellow gold setting, with a basket head and framed corners. It’s not the exact setting I would have picked, but I loved it for 8 years and then upgraded. 🙂 I bet he’ll loosen up a bit, and let you change it later. It’s very pretty on your hand!
Post # 5
@stephadele: I am firmly in the camp of “you should love your ring.” He doesn’t ever have to wear it on himself, why should he be the only one to like it? You don’t see grooms picking out the bride’s dress, do you? Hope it works out for you!
Post # 6
@stephadele: I don’t think a halo on that setting would at all be pleasing. It may actually look old fashioned or bulky like a class ring. Have you thought about adding a 3mm shared prong diamond eternity band as a wedding band? It may make it a but more glitzy.
Post # 7
I agree with your fiance to a certain extent about the ring being a symbol of love. I believe the ring should also reflect your style so I’m all about changing a setting if you don’t like it. It’s not like you’re complaining about the size of the center stone. Personally, I don’t think a halo would look that great with the rest of your ring. The diamond should represent your love, not the setting! 🙂
If he still is a bit sour about ring, I’d just pay for the new setting myself.
Post # 8
@stephadele: I have to agree with previous posters, I don’t think a halo is the way to go on this one. (It looks like he did a great job choosing a stone!) What exactly do you not like about the setting? Did you have your heart set on a halo or is that just the compromise that the two of you came to in order to change the setting just slightly?
Post # 9
I don’t think a halo and channel set will work well together.
Post # 10
I love halos – I have one myself, but honestly I don’t think it would go well with your original setting. I feel like it would just be too much going on.
Post # 11
I agree with previous posters — halo and channel set don’t really mix well. I also feel like the woman should be able to wear something she LOVES every day…it sucks that he didn’t pick something more your style on his own, but as he said, it’s a token and therefore his love for you far outweighs the actual makeup of said token. He loves you and therefore should want you to be excited every day to wear it.
It’s a beautiful diamond and really would stand out so much more with a more delicate band. The band is almost as wide as the diamond itself, and I was surprised to read that it’s almost a full carat. the thick band really swallows it up and makes it look smaller.
Maybe you should just wait a while, until some of the excitement and emotions over the engagement itself die down a bit. Maybe right after the wedding he won’t feel like the ring itself matters as much, and will be less opposed to changing the setting.
Post # 12
I’m gonna go ahead and throw it out there that I think a halo would look amazing with this center stone, BUT you’d need to change the whole setting to do it. I think a round or cushion halo with a pave band would look amazing with your center stone! You should be in love with your ring!
Post # 13
Your ring is gorgeous and it was given out of love.
Post # 14
wow…I love it!!! My e-ring isn’t what I would have picked either….I have had my ring for 7 years now and just recently asked my dh if I could reset it into something more my style…he got very upset and needless to say I won’t be changing my ring ever.
I think you could get a halo peg head, but like someone else mentioned…it’s going to give it a very chunky overall look. If that’s what you want and your fiance is ok with it…then do it.
Personally, I think your fiance did a great job, but I know how you feel. I do agree with you that you should love your ring since you are wearing it…congrats on your engagement!!
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I would not put a halo head on that band. It would look awkward. Wear the e-ring while you are engaged and buy a wedding band that you adore that can stand on its own. Then you can put the e-ring in a drawer after the wedding and wear the wedding band you are totally smitten with for the rest of your life. I think that would be a good way to balance his feelings with your own preferences and style.
Post # 16
@stephadele: I don’t think that ring would look good with a halo