(Closed) Not a new topic BUT the Pastor won't marry us :/

posted 6 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m sorry. 🙁 That’s a huge bummer. But I think you have a third option – keep your original wedding date and get married somewhere else. I know it’s not ideal, but it sounds like you already have a good lead on a different church. 

Post # 5
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

That stinks, I’m sorry OP.  Can I ask your religion?  Maybe there are other churches of the same religion you can get married in?  I was surprised how much the Catholic church in my area has changed…if we got married in my father’s church there’d be no way the Priest would marry us if we lived together.


Post # 6
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Why not a rushed real ceremony?  I totally see where he’s coming from but I don’t see why the only options are a rushed secret ceremony and waiting another year.


Post # 7
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’m sorry, that really sucks. Our pastor couldn’t have cared less that we lived together. I’ve been married twice and that was the case both times. God love the Methodists!

Post # 8
3697 posts
Sugar bee

That’s too bad. I know that some churches/priests/pastors are of the opinion that, if a couple is living together, it’s better to marry them (so as to resolve the situation) than to refuse them.

Post # 9
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

What I want to know is why your Future Mother-In-Law still attends a church that is so closed-minded? : They kicked your Future Sister-In-Law out because she had a baby out of wedlock, they won’t marry you and her son – and yet this is the church she envisions. Crazy! lol

My mother’s pastor also refused to marry my sister and her husband. It crushed my father and to this day he refuses to attend church until a new pastor comes in. He won’t speak to the man, even if they cross pathes.

I would say find another church so you don’t have to rush it 🙂 

Post # 10
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I guess I don’t understand why it’s a bad thing that a church has standards. That people have decided to live in the way of the world shouldn’t mean that the church has to condone what God doesn’t…

If getting married in that church is important, then conform to their rules, but at this point, I don’t know that getting married in that particular church is right for you, since you’d be doing it for all the wrong reasons.

Post # 11
4049 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Seems awfully judgemental to me (then again, I’m not a Christian anymore). I’d find a new church and keep your original date, even if this particular church does have some value to you.

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