(Closed) Not a phone fan

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Could you skype instead? I hate talking on the phone but somehow skype isn’t as bad to me. At least then you can see the person

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@dontstopbeelievin:  I don’t have much to add except to commiserate — my husband, god bless him, spends a lot of his daytime hours bored (he’s in the Army and we’re moving to another base soon, so someone else has basically already taken over his job). So how does he entertain himself? He calls me. Constantly. He will call me eight times in a day, and sometimes he has some quick piece of information to share, but other times he has nothing at all to say.  He just wants me to entertain him.

So, yeah, lots of long moments of silence. We live together; it’s not like I suddenly have new topics of conversation! It’s pretty annoying, but what can I do — I love the guy and I’m glad he likes to talk to me so much, even if we have nothing to talk about Smile

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My H and I are currently long distance. We prevent these kinds of issues by limiting the amount of time we talk on the phone. We stay on the phone long enough to share about our day and things that are going on in our lives and talk about our relationship, but we make sure to end the conversation so we don’t run out of things to talk about or feel like we’re spending all our free time on the phone.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I am a girl who went from seeing her guy almost everyday to not at all and I HATE talking on the phone.  What worked for us was texting, I know it’s not the same but neither is talking on the phone.  We would only call eachother when something really interesting or when we had something to talk about as soon as silence hit it was “well I’m gonna get off now, I’ll text you in an hour or so :)”  If you don’t like texting then plan out what you want to talk about and if you starrt to run silent get off asap!  It sucks not seeing him but if the phone is causing the problem then something needs to be switched up. Good luck and i hope everything works out 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

There are books of questions, hypotheticals, either ors, etc. Maybe pick one up and agree to answer 1 or 2 or night. Itll give you something to talk about and maybe you will learn a bit about each other in the process.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

I’m so glad you posted – I’m glad to know I’m not the only one. For me, having the flexibility to get off the phone after a short call (10min-ish) seems to help. And sometimes we talk much longer, but not often. I just don’t like the phone when I don’t have much new to say!

@ThreeMeers:  Yes, books! I ordered a couple on amazon (1001 questions to ask before you get married, and questions for couples), and SO and I both really enjoy answering the questions! We’ll do some over the phone, or on long drives, or while we’re hanging out in a park (if I happened to bring one of the books in my purse). It sparks interesting and meaningful conversation, and is also a really neat way to talk about some of the deeper issues!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Do you text a lot during the day? I found that if I text SO less we have more to talk about later in person or on the phone. So maybe less text= more talk?

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