Post # 1
My FI wants to give my daughter a necklace and pendant as part of the ceremony, as a symbol of his promise to take care of her as well. What is an appropriate diamond size for a 10-year old? Or is a diamond solitaire pendant completely inappropriate in the first place? Opinions please?
Post # 3
Just my opinion, but I think it all depends on the child in question, and your personal finances.
If money is tight, I think a very small diamond necklace would be appropriate. If you have money to throw again, something bigger would be lovely too.
Do you feel that she would be capable of taking care of it? [Not losing it, trading it for something at school, ect]. Not saying she would, but I wouldn’t trust many 10 year olds with diamonds!
That being said, my biological father got me a diamond necklace when I was 16, it was a small diamond on a thin necklace, and I thought it was perfect. I think it cost around $100, and I still have it to this day.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t give a 10 year old anything really valuable. I’d definitely stay under $150, or however much the giver is comfortable with given that she probably won’t take very good or careful care with it.
Frankly I think even that is a lot of money for a 10 year old and I probably would avoid a diamond, for the reason stated above, but then if she’s responsible I could see it being a lovely keepsake.
Otherwise there’s no shame in picking another gemstone that’s a little less expensive. She might even like a gemstone in her favorite color better.
Post # 5
Hmm, it depends on your specific circumstances, but I’d say nothing that would put her at risk of attracting criminal attention, make her stick out from her peers, or that anyone would be very upset if it got lost – because 10 year olds do lose things on the regular.
I probably would choose a semi-precious stone for a 10 year old, one that’s her favorite color. Diamonds are only one of many beautiful choices. If I did feel like I really wanted to get her her first diamond, it would be just a little melee one, set in a nice design, more symbolic than costly.
Post # 6
I guess I was younger than that when I received a ruby ring. I still have it, but no longer wear it. Around the age of 10 , I was given a small pinky ring, which I still have and and wear occasionally. My sister, however, has none of the rings she was given. She lost all of them.
The moral of this story? Know the child and whether or not she will take care of the pendant. I think it is just such a loving gesture, she just might cherish it always.
Post # 7
I think it will be fine. Yes, as a child I lost things, but not things I KNEW were important. My mother kept the special necklace my grandma gave me in her jewelry drawer and I wore it on special occasions. At 10 years old, most children should be responsible enough for that, and it’ll help her learn to take care of things. Personally, I think it’s a very sweet gesture, and a good idea.
Post # 8
I was given a small amythyst ring when I was around that age. I lost it once or twice, but I’ve since found it. However, things happen and there’s a good chance she could permanently lose it. If you feel she’s responsible to have a diamond necklace, then why not? 🙂 It all depends on what you are comfortable with.
Post # 9
I would personally go for something less expensive, like her birthstone. Still meaningful, but less of a financial burden if it gets lost or stolen.
Post # 10
My mom gave me a small diamond necklace when I was 9 or 10 (diamond is my birthstone), and I never wore it. I ended up losing it. I wasn’t very girly to begin with, but after getting yelled at for losing something expensive that I didn’t want in the first place, I stopped liking jewelry altogether. I didn’t even want an E-ring at first, but my FI talked me into it. Now he’s trying to talk me into getting a band for our wedding. I’m not saying that this is typical, I’m just sharing my personal experience with you.
Post # 11
what about giving her a nice locket with the new family inside.
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Post # 13
I don’t think its inappropriate as long as its small and she understands to never take it off. My dd is 4 and hasworn a gold bracelet with a tiny diamond since she came home from the hospital. She knows it never comes off. I would also consider a locket.
Post # 14
@ECH258: I probably wouldn’t get anything over a half carat if she is going to be wearing it.
You could even buy a slightly larger diamond and put it in the safety deposit box until she’s older and will appreciate it more.
Blue Nile has some good prices on diamond pendants.
Post # 15
to answer the question, i’d say a 0.25-0.50 carat diamond pendant. the cost of the diamond has more to do with the quality. just be sure to get her a diamond with average color and more inclusions. so perhaps J color and I1.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t get anything bigger than 0.25ct because bigger would draw unwanted attention.
If you don’t want her to have a real diamond, what about a Swarovski crystal necklace?